over reacting?

[littlechefmomy]

Mamas I need help me and my ex/bd had always agreed to us that drinking and smoking was pointless and stupid (we both agreed) and he knows how much I hate that my older sister smokes around her daughter. Now im 8 months pregnant and we r trying to get back on good terms and I find out hes doing hooka with a group of his friends. It seriously killed me inside right now and killed my night I can'tstand people that smoke. Am iI over reacting if I end up going off on him one day by telling him to stop or ima cut him off from me and the baby? I mean hes only 18 ! Like drinking and doing hooka isn't even fkn legal for him or his "friends" ughh someone tell me if im wing for being pissed

[KatFirsttimemum]

I'm sorry but I definitely think that you're over reacting. 1: being that the two of you aren't together, so it really isn't your place to tell him what he can and can't do. (Even if the two of your were together, my opinion would still be that it isn't your place to tell him what he can or can't do. Because, he is his own person)
2: being that, it isn't illegal for him to smoke he's 18 years old, and if he doesn't plan on doing it around you or the baby when it is here then no harm done.
I just think you just really think about it, and decide what things are worth fighting over, and what things really just aren't. You two aren't going to agree on everything, just like everyone else in the world. But, to fight over little nonsense is shenanigans.
I hope you figure it out, congrats on you're pregnancy!

[inlovewithmybaby]

Hookah is actually just as bad as cigarettes.just because its flavored don't mean ****. Smoking it for like an hr is like a whole pack of cigarettes. But a lot of people do it just for a little fun with friends he's not doing drugs don't go off on him.its ok try to just talk to him nicely about it.

[Ria95]

Hookah only has like 5% tobacco in it so I dont see the problem there, but if the drinking and things are getting to you iv learnt its best to sit down and have a covisation about it before you end up losing it at him. Then he will just say your overreacting, hopefully use can work it out at the end of the day you wont babys dad in there life :)

[littlechefmomy]

Thanks everyone

[GrimmyRose]

Hookah isn't illegal at 18 lol I used to go to hookah bars when I turned 18 with friends. I don't do it anymore and I don't think that should be a reason for you to take the baby away :/ as long as he's not doing it around the baby. At least just tell him you don't want that around the baby. Tell him the truth too! Tell him if he's gonna be in your baby's life he can't just choose when he feels like seeing the baby. Say that If he's just gonna end up walking out then might as well not even be around :/ that's an actual reason to not want him around.

[amberlynn15]

I'm seriously having the same problem with my boyfriend. but only the smoking part. he smokes weed and I honestly can not stand it. the fact that it's illegal and he has it I'm his truck sometimes pisses me off so much. I've tried talking to him about it and lead to this HUGE argument between us. He still does it knowing I hate it. it wasn't really a problem before I got pregnant but now that I am I really want him to stop. for our baby. He just doesn't understand that! So I know how you feel girl.

[Sam_v]

In my opinion if he smokes on his own time there shouldn't be a reason to go off on him especially if you two aren't together at the moment. I'm not with my babies father right now either and I believe that taking a child away from their father based upon issues between mom and dad just isn't fair to the child. As long as the baby isn't in any danger the dad should be allowed to see the child.

[summer9284]

Well technically hookah is flavored tobacco, so legally he can smoke it at 18 :\ i think you should just have a talk with him and tell him how you truly feel. Try to look at it in a positive way, at least hookah isnt addicting. Thankfully hes not smoking pot or cigarettes. You being frustrated is natural but don't stress too much for you and babies sake

[littlechefmomy]

See but that's the thing we aren't together at the moment we r just on good terms like at times we will hang out  but its not like we r a couple anymore and there have been times were he talks about only seeing the baby every now and then and tbh I already told many people I would rather not have my bd around the baby at all then to have her dad walk in nd out of her life whenever he feels like it

[creimee]

I know smoking is terrible but if he isnt doing it around and you doesn't plan on doing it around the baby I really don't see it being fair that you go off on him. And hookah is a lot healthier than smoking cigarettes.. I wouldn't go off on him or cut him out of your life or the childs just because he was smoking hookah.. I know there are tons of mothers to bed bad that would rather deal with a bd that smokes sometimes than one that doesn't want to be around..