overly protective

[smallbby]

hi, anyone can answer this already moms, ftm, but my son will b born on friday and has his own room (fiance wants our little boy to have his own and get use to it). im a ftm and when i heard of sids i was terrified. plus i didnt just pop up pregnant i planned my baby. my point is,

i dont want sheets or blankets in my babies crib i dont want anything that may seem like something he can suffocate on. i was going to just keep him dressed in full onesies like sleepers at night time.
also i dont want to swaddle or burrito him before bed because im afraid he can roll over on his face and not roll back over i will only burrito him if im holding him or something. but not if im leaving the room.

please tell me am i overreacting are u putting blankets in ur babies crib?

[smallbby]

thanks ladies. a lot of these made me smile and i do agree. i will see how things go. we do not have a bassinet sooo if it seems necessary we will get one. I'm having my baby I'm a couple of hours. the swaddling i will do.. i always wanted to just was afraid. but you guys have reassured me of its safety and necessity.

[mommyofbaby_2]

I had my daughter in a bassinet in our room until I stopped breastfeeding her then started putting her in her own room she very easily became accustomed to it and liked her crib very much. We had a fitted sheet over the semi soft bassinet mattress and I swaddled her because it comforted her but I never used blankets they have swaddling zip up things they sell at the store. She never rolled in her sleep but as sids runs in her father's family and he had a machine for his first year because he would stop breathing in his sleep we wanted to keep the closest eye we could on her.

[K_Madrid]

Girl let me just tell you one thing. That newborn will sleep a max of 2 days in his own room. There is no way you will be getting enough rest checking up on him in another room for the first few weeks. You will be exhausted, and after those 2 days your fiance won't have a choice but to let him sleep in a basinet next to your bed and at that point it won't even be an argueing matter for you. Your body and mind will not be rested enough to even care what he has to say at that point. That simple.

[my5baby]

You are not overreacting it is normal for you to be so concerned. I have never used blankets for any of my kids either. I did swaddle my last one for about the first month and plan on doing it with this one. It seems to help them sleep better when there that small every little move seems to wake them. Also at newborn stage they normally can not rollover so i feel swaddling is safe and comforting to baby.

[Ceri111]

I agree with these two ladies ^ you and your babies needs should come before your fiances ego

[LaurenC86]

Having the baby in a bassinet beside the bed for the first few months won't take away from them being self sufficient in any way. My first transitioned from bassinet to crib (crib was in her own room of course) like it was nothing bc even in a bassinet they still have their own space, it was harder on me than on her lol.. bc it was just so much easier when she was right beside the bed and gave me so much piece of mind. I agree that it's not really fair of him to deny you that and his reasoning doesn't really make sense bc there's no way it would take away from baby being self sufficient later on. Hope he comes around.  

[Deekie]

If it's just because your finance wants it I don't think it's a fair deal seeing as if your Breast feeding you have to get up walk to another room sit there and feed put baby back to bed and go try and get to sleep before having to wake up in a few hours to do it again. Much easier if the baby is next to you plus sids doesn't have to have blankets in the crib to happen a lot of sids cases are unexplained and have no idea what happened . Sids its greatly reduced by having the baby sleep in your room. In regards to swaddling ...most babies like it because they are used to being tight and surrounded by your womb. And it's several months before babies can actually roll over anyway. Your fiances reasoning to have him in a seperate room is pathetic( no offense) he wants your baby to grow up self sufficient that's great but it's a baby it needs attention and constant feeding . Your going to end up being exhausted. Can tell you right now that if my by the told me that the baby wasnt to sleep in our room he'd be sleeping on the couch until he changed his mind .

[smallbby]

yes. ive heard things like sometimes the baby will like a temperature similar to a hospital temp since thats the first thing temp wize they get use to when they get out.. so i believe the onesies should be enough (plus) i live in fld. and my baby will be closer to one y.o by the next winter. i get induced fri.

i like the idea of making bumpers w. the burp clothes for the swaddler because it does seem like they will be more secure. im just petrified. i remember my baby cousin would only only only sleep if held and laying on my chest.

my fiance is refusing the idea of having the baby in our room because he wants the baby to grow self sufficient. plus he doesnt want to admit it but its a ego thing he always grew up sharing beds and such, sleeping on floors he wants our son to have his own. (trust me i hate it but cant argue anymore about it)

[Tricia0818]

I swaddled my kids and nothing ever happened. My first also wouldn't sleep any other way but on his belly. SIDS can happen regardless of the baby being covered up or not. It's your choice and what you feel comfortable with but if it gets cold or anything I would consider a thin blanket.

[Ceri111]

You can get air light blankets that are very thin and spacey so baby could breathe through it if it did cover their face :) ive got loads even though im having baby next to my bed

[Destynee2015]

Im a mommy of 3...ive always just used a tight fitted sheet in the crib. I do swaddle my kids though because a lot of infants like that secure feeling. They were in a tight womb and so that is what feels most secure. My kids would cry if I didnt swaddle them but every baby is different. Also, its very hard for a baby to roll over by itself swaddled. They dont have a whole lot of muscle control as infants. One tip I can give u if u fear of baby rolling, is roll up 2 burp cloths and wedge one on each side of baby like bumpers. Then you can have peace of mind and baby is secure. :) Take care

[LaurenC86]

It's a very legitimate worry. I myself and terrified of it as well so I got a bassinet to keep in my room beside the bed for the first few months and I use to actually wake up constantly to check if my little one was still breathing. I never put any extra blankets or anything in with my first either. But As far as the swaddling though, they can't really roll over for quite awhile and they definitely sleep better when swaddled, just make sure it's tight so they can't kick the blankets off. but if it concerns you then by all means go with your gut, I don't think you're overreacting at all and maybe you can talk your guy into getting a bassinet bc having them right beside you for those first few months does wonders to ease your mind as well.

[ohmitout]

You're not overreacting at all, I'm just doing a fitted crib sheet and no blankets on top with layering with onsies if we need to. Im not swaddling either I guess it could contribute to sids by making your baby get into too deep of a sleep and stop breathing. It's awesome that its getting nice out then you won't hear as much flack for no blankets