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small vent
So tired & anoyed of being told what I can & can't do with my pregnancy by my mother in law. I can't eat hardly much sugar, I can't press down on my belly, I DON'T DRINK but I can't have ONE small glass of wine, specifically around Haitian people cause they gonne judge, like dang I can't do so much. I don't go by Haitian pregnancy rules cause for one im not, I go by what my doctor sais & clearly he's never said it was never ok to he said the occasional was ok. Ugh seriously...
Don't mess with my chocolate!! I wouldn't like anybody scrutinizing my every move. Hopefully if the doctor gives her some 'current' info, she'll settle down and let you have your chocolate milk without comments! good luck sweetie!
Oh boy, hard to live with the mother in law. Hats off to you for staying so patient. :>)
He is a 100% mommas boy, but he can definitely be a complete a s s sometimes for no reason, he's kind of like weird lol , but yes I agree maybe it would be best cause I have 4 more months to go & I'm not gunna put up with it for the remaining of the time, mind you WE LIVE TOGETHER, not that's she's on my a s s all the time at all, but I can't even get a glass of milk & her watch me do it without her saying something about too much sugar & the baby getting sick! Seriously??!!
Oh, that is a good idea!! Plus, she'd probably love that--- the idea of going to the doctor with you. Then she'd get to hear the doctor confirm what you've been saying and then she'd probably show you more respect.
I like mama's boys because they do often treat women well as long as they aren't 'too much' of one. I need to be number one!
I like mama's boys because they do often treat women well as long as they aren't 'too much' of one. I need to be number one!
Yes he's a complete mommas boy, I would never want to get into it with his mom cause she's the sweetest but her telling me this & that isn't good for me is getting on my nerves, yes she's had 5 kids but that was a long time ago & now it's my turn & clearly I would never do anything I thought would harm my unborn daughter. He just listens to what she sais cause he thinks she's right most of the time & knows everything. Idk who's side he'd take if it ever came down to it but like you said im sure he just wouldn't want us to ever get into a disagreement like that anyway. Idk what to do but if it continues I'm gunna bring her to a doctors appointment & have the doctor explain today's generation about pregnancy to her.
Everyone treats me like I'm disabled . Mainly my boyfriend I feel so lazy I hate it
My mother in law was 'difficult' to say the least. She was very different than me and very 'loud' with her opinions. I tended to smile and say 'okay' and then do what I wanted without getting into it with her. That worked with me. Once in a blue moon, she crossed the line and then I'd let her know politely. "No. I am not retarding my son because I'm not trying to teach him to crawl at 3 months. Please don't say that again." (no joke, that happened).
Now our boyfriend is more difficult. Is he pretty attached to his mom? will he have your back as his partner over her? Ugh, try to work that out as it is hard to feel like the two of 'them' are a team against you. My husband was on my side but just didn't want me to fight with his mom. So he supported the smile and do exactly what *I* wanted to do approach.
good luck. Sounds hard and I hope it resolves.
Now our boyfriend is more difficult. Is he pretty attached to his mom? will he have your back as his partner over her? Ugh, try to work that out as it is hard to feel like the two of 'them' are a team against you. My husband was on my side but just didn't want me to fight with his mom. So he supported the smile and do exactly what *I* wanted to do approach.
good luck. Sounds hard and I hope it resolves.
Thank you so much girls, I'm glad to hear their are people who agree with me & it makes me happy to read this. My bf & his mom are just trying to control my pregnancy & it's driving nuts, if it continues I'm gunna go insane!
Thing is hun, we've survived hundreds of generations before an actual intelligent society by picking food up off the floor and eating it, obviously their pregnancies worked out fine and every thing you eat has a natural amount of salt and sugar in it, what's a little more going to do? If a QUALIFIED doctor tells you you can have one or two drinks occasionally, then h*ll, you can! If I get hungry while I'm pregnant, I think of what I want and I get it out the fridge and I friggen eat it cause I want to and I'm hungry and no one's gonna tell this baby carrying hormonal chick not to eat something when she wants it :P
It's only since modern medicine people have been saying "oh, you shouldnt have this amount of caffeine" or "no added salt and sugar" well heck how long have we been doing it before they found out it MIGHT cause problems with you or the baby, but even without pregnancy sugar and salt still COULD cause problems with any person.. carrying a child doesnt make it a higher risk.. .
you damn well do what you like!
It's only since modern medicine people have been saying "oh, you shouldnt have this amount of caffeine" or "no added salt and sugar" well heck how long have we been doing it before they found out it MIGHT cause problems with you or the baby, but even without pregnancy sugar and salt still COULD cause problems with any person.. carrying a child doesnt make it a higher risk.. .
you damn well do what you like!
And they seem to forget that were the mother and wont do nething that will hurt our baby....its so annoying
Thats is why u can only b nice to some extent lol....im a person that speaks my mind but of course other people dont see it that way they just think im some wat rude....I been thru this with my husbands aunt....during my 1st trimester she would tell me I cant have ne salt, which I love on my food by the way, she would see me putting salt on my food and would walk up to me and smack my hand and take away the salt and try giving me a speech on how bad it is to eat salt....omg I got soo sick of it and decided to tell her can't noone tell me wat I can or cannot eat...its my choice,my baby and my body and after that she never said nething about my salt habbit lol....sometimes u gotta speak up and voice how u feel when someone is tryna take control!
So tell them it's your body and your baby and you will do what you feel is appropriate for both you and baby. My dad freaks out when I barely poke my belly (like to show how hard it is). He insists I'm "hurting the baby". I got sick of it and told him to shut the hell up and that if something like that was going to hurt anyone, it would be me before the baby.
I'm Haitian & never heard of that stuff. Then again I live by myself... But I'm annoyed with my bf. Whenever I'm going out with friends to the beach or pool he always says "remember you're pregnant" like I can forget. I hate it. & I looooove spicy food & he's always saying "you can't have that It's unsafe". & whenever I'm on my phone at night he says "that's too much radiation on my baby". I'm soo annoyed.
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