Is this normal?

[ammanda]

Hey ladies, its been awhile since Ive been on here longer then  2 minutes.  Life has been so crazy! Cole keeps me very busy.  Me and Df split up for good this time.  and ive been back working, but only on the weekends at my old bar. I told my boss i could only work weekends cause thats when Drew(coles father) has off, and ihave him during the week when hes at work.. Im so exhausted!!  But Coles doing great. I hope everyone else is too.  Ive lost track of everyone.  Im still so in love with Drew, Ive been so depressed. and all we do is fight and yell at each other still.. I feel so bad for Cole.    I hope ya'll use this thread to let me know how you have been.  Now that im settled back at my moms and stuff, I can be on here more and would like to know where every one is at..

But anyway for my question,   Cole can go during the day missing feedings if he is sleeping. He eats 3-4 oz every 2-3 hours... but if hes sleeping he dont care.. but at night he does not give up a feeding for the life of him. he is litereally up every 2 hours lol.. I dont mind, cause i love him and of course want him to be fed.  but is it normal for him not to mind during the day, but do at night?  

[ammanda]

Losingmymind:  Yea thats what he does, is sleep all day and not at night.  but yesterday he was literally up like all day, and still got up every two hours last night, and it looks like today is gonna be the same cause hes been up since 9 am and its now noon.  the only time hell sleep is when i rock him in his bouncy but as soon ans i stop hes back up lol.. hes a lil stinker.. but yea he has plenty of wet diapers, but as for poopy ones. theve been just clumps for a week now.  What can I do for constipation?  Any way thanks for the chat on me and D, we were rocky for so long even before Cole got here.  and now its just worse. I dont think theres any help for our family to be together again.  But I have to just be strong for Cole.  Its just hard when its only been 2 weeks and hes already moving on. I mean how are u in love with someone for 9 years, be together for the last year and half, have a baby that you planned together, and just give up and move on so easily.. it just makes me even more upset to think that im not worth fighting for, and that its so easy to get over me. u know..


Ashleen:  Ya at night I feed him in the dark. change his diaper and put him back in his swaddle thing and back in the pack n play.  Cause im so tired as it is, i dont have time for cuddle time, and trust me I dont want no light on either lol..  And yea hes in Coles life but only when its convientant for him.. he has left him twice now to go party with some S***!  I hate her for ruining our family.  It just breaks my heart. I dont care if hes mad at me or mean to me or lies to me(like he has been) but i cant stand for him to do it to Cole.  And hes like trying to push me to move on, just so he wont feel so bad.. I have no intentions of moving on. I dont want another man.. i dont want another man in my sons life, its not right.   But omg hun!! I hope and pray that everything is alright. Did they give him the steriod shot?  Wow thats a big baby.  Lol  I was surprised that Cole was 7lbs 11oz cause he always meassured behind and my doct said he was gonna be small, but u never know... Your in my prays hun, dont forget to keep me informed.. and wow, i cant believe ur so far, i remember when u were like 11 weeks!!!!

[Ashelen]

yes, unfortunately, that's normal. most newborns come with their days and nights mixed up and eventually he'll get it figured out. the best thing to do is during the day make sure all the windows are open and the rooms are bright and airy and there's a lot of activity, and make sure at night when you wake up to feed him you use the minimum amount of light necessary, no noise...no cuddle-time...just feed and back to bed...eventually he'll get it!

I'm so sorry to hear about you and DF...that's heartbreaking :(. I won't ask what happened but I'm sure what whatever happened you'll get through this and be a stronger person, and I'm just relieved that he's still staying active in Cole's life...but I'm so sorry you're going through this happy time (the newborn stage!) by yourself, that's got to be hard...thank God for family!

I've been doing ok--36, almost 37wks now and having a few (serious?) neurological complications, so I'm getting an amnio done next week to test for lung maturity and if it comes back positive I'll be induced right at 38wks...Grey's big. his 35wk u/s measured him closer to 38 1/2 wks, bleah. Wish me luck on THAT, lol.

anyway hang in there honey I'm here if you need to talk anytime, OK?

[LosingMyMindInGA]

More than likely he is getting the majority of his sleep during the day so at night he's sleeping lighter which means that when the hunger starts to kick in he feels it and it wakes up.  But becuase he is up so much at night he sleeps like a log during the day and is too asleep to notice or care about the hunger feelings.  It just sounds to ME like he has his schedule reversed.  If he were my child, as long as he was gaining weight and giving you adequate amounts of wet and dirty diapers and nothing else seemed wrong, I wouldn't worry about it.

I'm sorry to hear things aren't any better between you and DF.  It's so hard having a new baby and the changes and sleep deprivation can bring out the worst in a lot of people.  I know that when I had my middle two if it wasn't for the fact that we were stationed overseas and neither of us had anywhere to go we would have split for sure.  Even the most rock solid relationships have their moments after a change like having a baby.  Maybe in time things will quiet down and ya'll can work through things, if not then things will work themselves out in a different manner.  It's good that you have a supportive family becuase it will really help you.  If at any time you feel you are more depressed than you should be, I would talk to your doctor.  Right now with your hormones still adjusting from giving birth you are more susceptible to clinical depression and with all that's going on it just adds to the risk, so please keep an eye on yourself.  :)