I never felt so alone (advice, vent)

[sadies93]

I am 26 weeks and 2 days pregnant with my first child and being pregnant makes me feel so happy, i already love my child so much. But here in the past couple months i just feel so alone. I am depressed. My in laws are driving me insane, my moms husband is annoying, my fiance cant find a job and im so miserable all the time due to backaches, headaches, cant get comfortable, leg cramps etc. I cant talk to my mom because she always makes everything about her and will just say "i know how you feel" when she doesnt know how i feel becuase shes never been through the things i have and i dont want to know that she knows how i feel, i just want her to listen ugh. I cant talk to my fiance because he just doesnt understand the stress im going through.
Anymore all i want to do is lay in bed and stare at the ceiling, nothing seems to help. We are broke so the only thing we can do is walk around stores and look at stuff, which just makes me feel even worse. Its been to hot lately to go for walks in the park or anything.
I just dont know what to do anymore.
Anyone else?

[kai0912]

yes it is hard being broke and pregnant... my first pregna.cy i workes until i gave birth but this time around i lost my job about 4months before i got pregnant due to lay offs...  it was definately very rough but luckly i found a school to go to it was a trade school for landscaping and they pay you while in the program i graduate in june but since i already knew i was going to have to take time off i finished all my work ahead of time i had baby boy last friday so now i relax and wait for graduation... maybe you can find sonething to keep you busy is there a library near that you can get to? maybr pick up some good books or movies... for a while i found doing jigsaw puzzles kept me busy and kept my eyes off the clock and my mind off being uncomfortable.... i hope things start to look up for you... just keep our head up and try to stay positive... like someone else suggested maybe you can journal or write your baby letters!

[mrsh72911]

It's very hard being broke and pregnant we found out I was pregnant 2 weeks after my husband got laid off. It's def not fun. The stress is insane. I'm sorry your going through this

[Babyiish]

2:ninky
Wow ...why be  judgmental....
She's just sharing how she feels
Depression  is bad specially when no one understands how you feel...  & no one wants to listen
2 Sadies93
Xx

[journeesmom]

We are receiving a blessing in the midst of chaos. So sorry for your loss. But that baby boy will give u the joy thats missing. So will my baby girl:-D

[sadies93]

ninky just for a FYI when i got pregnant i was on birth control and we used a condom and i was on my period, we were being careful. And we are broke because my fiance lost his job because i found my father dead and my fiance came to be with me so his boss fired him.

To everyone else thank you so much for your words, they helped alot. Thank you for not judging me and offering me advice, i am trying to enjoy my pregnancy, its just hard to right now because of all the stress in my life. I cant wait to meet my little boy but for now im trying to enjoy things while i can.

[journeesmom]

Well i understand your troubles. I am 28 weeks. I have known the father of my baby ten yrs. We date off and on and were friends for a while too. When he found out i was pregnant he said he was married and his wife is pregnant too. He doesnt want my baby and has shown no interest in helping. I work and do everything on my own. My family is unable to help alot. I have friends who are trying to help. I have had a stressful pregnancy too. And, i have a stressful career. Look on the bright side...the first thing a baby needs is love. Start there and pray about the rest. Its easy for someone on the outside to say be more careful when they dont know your situation. Some things are unpredictable. I also feel like i cant talk to anyone. People judge rather than understanding complicated situations.

[JessicaRose30]

I had depression for the first time in my first pregnancy and it can be all consuming because this is a major event in your life! This is the best time for you to be selfish and let everyone around you know its all about you and your baby an what you want! Make a small goal goal each day and work towards that. And if your partner is finding it hard to find work then look with him and for him get the phone book out an call work agencies or shops an ask for work. 2 people looking is better than 1 remember to be selfish this is the only time you will get away with it and people will enjoy letting you get away with it as it is a special time for you. Good luck x

[babymama1985]

Its def hard to be broke. Im in school full time and unemployed and im 22 weeks pregnant. Me and the babys father broke up when i was 15weeks. I am.alone....tho i have family and friends they dont really understand my circumstances and they also have their own lives. I know its not mucg but i got through the past 6 weeks by journaling. I got my anger out and my sadness and depression out without hurting anyone else. Plus my journal never says that it knows how i feel. I would just try it and see. The stress is not worth the effects it has on the baby. Because if something goes wrong u dont wanna look back and know u could have done something to avoid it. I know u wanna buy all those nice things for your baby but like my mom told me that baby is not gonna care about anything but u being there. U are your babys source of life. And thats a privilege.

[ninky724]

Goodluck and just try 2 be a little more cautious next time, being as tho  you saying yall broke.