Cant move?

[Raevicious]

So I want to move but I was told I can't without the fathers permission. My baby isn't due till November and I want to move in a couple years...but the thing is he's not going to be a part of her life...he ditched his son with the mom in new jersey and works under the table jobs so he doesn't have to pay child support which means he's just going to be a name on a paper.
Anyone have any advice? I know he wouldn't sign over his parental rights because he wants to be a pain in my side.

[ebonyivory22]

I dont mean to chime in on your post eith my personal story but im also debating on putting my bd on da birth certificate.part of me wants to so he will b held accountable but i also dont want him near my baby bc he has anger issues and drug abuse.no job hasnt had one in 7and months and is too focused on himself and hus "basketball career" that isnt going to go anywhere.he has threatened to take my child once its born and has promised to make my life hell.after breaking up witg him and telling him he was no longee welcome to my doctors appointments bc he doesnt contribute and prepare as a father he flipped.now im dealing with him harrasing me saying he will stop at nothing to b around his child.hot court this week for a protection order....still debating on whats best...to put him on the birth certificate or not? I know one thing....baby is def getting my last name! I dnt think he has the legal right yo stop uou from moving especially since dna of the child hasnt been proven so i say go for it! Good luck hun :)

[Raevicious]

Thanks everyone

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[Newmommy86]

Its up to you but if he's not going to help and just be a name on a paper than maybe you shouldn't bother with him signing your baby's birth certificate. Its sounds like He's gonna be a headache and not going to help. That way the baby is yours and you have all the rights and could move and make all the decisions for your could without having to consult with him

[imsobeautiful]

Ok the thing his name can not go on any paper with his signature nd i.d

So by his name not on anything he his no routes over your child nd you can get him put n jail but for what that not going to male him take of your child or the other little boy......it take a mom to be there for her child....I mean I'm still with my kids dad so idk about child support but I do no the law so you can move where ever too want to when ever you want to.....

[KTowne]

I'm not sure where you live, but here, if you're going through visitation, or you're getting child support you do have to get his consent to move first. If you aren't doing either of these things I wouldn't worry about it, pretty much like she doesn't have a dad!

[Morrisfamily2012]

It's only if you move out of state he can stop you and that's only if he gives a damn to try. I honestly wouldn't put him on the birth certificate, if he does decide he wants his rights he'd have to go through all the trouble of dna test. If you know he's just gonna be a name on a piece of paper then why put it there? He'll be absent either way.

[ag9488]

Just give the baby your last name and don't put his name on the birth certificate... if you feel he's going to do to you what he did to the other girl then that's the best way to go...

[Raevicious]

I don't see him trying to stop me.

[jenniekae81]

The only way he can stop you from moving is if you have an established visitation order and that has to say that you cant move more than a certain distance away. If he isnt going to be in her life then it shouldnt be a problem

[Jennyjoelogan]

Im lucky I didnt put my bd in my sons birth certificate and my son has my last name. I dont have to ask for permission to move. Why put him in the birth certificate if he just wants to make your life miserable and you dont want him near you our your daughter?

[mariiberii]

You can move where ever when pregnant. As for moving after birth my son's dad is a dead beat but on the certificate. With very few right s but I couldn't move without his permission. So I sent him a certified letter and made copy. It announces the move. Then I filled out a parenting plan on my own with him. You can print the paper work from your county court website. After that I mailed it to court house so it was on file. Then I moved. I'te easy if he cooperates. I hate my son's dad and he's still a dead beat but I got to move atleast.

[Raevicious]

He should already be in jail because of his other kid then because he owes a ton of money and isn't in jail. I live in Arizona and I want him on the birth certificate because this will be the 2nd child he has made and ditched. I hope he goes to jail. But I also don't want him near me or our daughter

[marajean21]

Where do you live that you cannot move? Sounds like bull. And if you take him for support, he has 30 days to get a legitimate job or he'll be looking at jail time. If you're not married to him, you don't even have to put him on the birth cert and forget about support or custody or really anything dealing with father, but there's that chance he can always take you to court