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right or wrong?
So I've decided that this relationship isn't worth it anymore. He may be the father of this child but he has done nothing to show he wants her except talk about her. My parents and I have bought basically everything and then some for her and he's maybe bought one outfit? He's not clean. He rarely does laundry for himself. Never cleans his place. There's animal feces all over the floor in one room. I feel like I'm on an episode of hoarding buried alive! I've begged and pleaded and even left him once because of this. I don't want to do this anymore. Should I wait till she's born and hope hell change? Or just call it quits now and say to bad so sad? I'm stressed over this Crap when I shouldn't be. I'm even making up excuses to not go to his place most of the time. So should he stay or should he go? I've made up my mind already but what do you all think?
I love him to death and he's not a bad person but the hygiene is a major issue for me. I was raised to be clean. Sure my bedroom gets messy but that's my space. And most normal people have a mess every once in a while. That's ok but an entire house that is completely dirty and just nasty is unacceptable
Yeah but he may or may not be the father. We were apart for like two weeks then got back together and I got drunk one thing led to another and I'm not sure if he's the dad or not. But the time frames so close that we both think it's him and I'm not worried about it. If he wants a custody battle I'll bring it up. And no child needs a mother or father figure. They just need someone to love and care for them
Leave. A child is not a good reason to stay with someone. Although he hasn't made much of an effort, it's still important for your baby to have a father figure. Don't leave him out of the picture just because things aren't working, if he wants to be a part of his daughter's life after she is born, then let him!
He lives with a friends parents who do absolutely nothing at the house. It's his cats that have caused the feces in the one room. I have no patience anymore. After being together for almost 9months and trying I am finally just done. He's 28 freaking years old. Instead of staying up all night playing video games he should clean. He works at Wal-Mart so it's not like he's unemployed. Yet he expects to be on the birth certificate. Sorry but if I've been treated like a single mom before the baby's born then I'm raising her as a single mom when she's here.
melcarin, is there something that could explain animal feces in his house? Does he live with a group of people and he has no control over the house?
Omg. Girl believe me i understand i left my bd a few months ago bc hes worthless really im 40wks tomorrow nd i worked everyday up until last tues. He never once had a job nd kept taking from me nd what i was saving for my baby i found out he had a drug habit and that was the last straw. All ur baby needs is you and your family. If he doesnt want to do right fir his flesh and blood thats his problem dont let his ways burden u or ur baby. Ur stronger than that. Xoxo
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