Boyfriend Problems

[LexiPierson]

I know I just posted... But I really need some help... Me and my boyfriend are having our first baby, it happened kind of early but that's besides the point. Lately I've been feeling sooo paranoid / insecure about our relationship like the other day.. I was at his house and found out he was looking at porn and it just bothered me so much like he has me, why does he need that? also on Facebook I got really jealous of him talking to other girls... I don't really know what's going on with me, I try to ignore these feelings but they just don't go away, I feel like I make up problems in my head.. I feel crazy :/

[LexiPierson]

Thanks y'all. I kind of thought I was the only one who felt it was wrong haha, but I guess I will try and talk to him, I just don't want him to get mad or anything. I love him to death, I don't love his dirty little habit though.

[emilyalyssa]

I would rather my bf or husband watch porn. Cause during my first trimester I was always sick. So no sex what' so ever. I thought it was odd when he said don't worry I'm ok. Well, I found out he was cheating on me. So I broke up with him and now we are having problems over our son. It's stupid all the things he tries to say and do. You may be "right there", but maybe you don't want it or don't feel up to it. As for Facebook you shouldn't  have to feel you can't trust him with it. Ask him how he knows them without making a big scene lol. Things will be ok though.

[CassandraBrown02]

Being overly insecure is normal during pregnancy thats just a natural feeling that comes with the territory. You body is changing.  The fb thing wouldn't bother me because everyone has friends as long as he isn't crossing the line I personally wouldn't mind it, and as far as porn goes most guys masturbate its nothing to be jealous of(Even though you're right there as i keep reading people write)I'm sure you might have tried masturbation. What if he said hey Im right here?the feeling works both ways. Its nothing disrespectful its just a natural thing guys/girls like to do at some point. You might not like it but hey what can you do? If you tell him dont do it most likely he'll just get more creative and hide it from you. I remember being pregnant with our first child and we started making up do's and don't's. It only caused arguments all though we've been together for 6 years we still had to learn that as a couple we both had bad habits that bothered us. What worked for us is just TRUSTING each other, and excepting the things that we didn't exactly like. Its just my opinion though. I hope you find a balance that works for you and your family.

[afd126]

Thankfully I have a hubby who does not watch porn or go to strip clubs ;) we respect each other to much and why would we want to watch others when we have each other .....even when we can't have sex he just understands......super thankful to have a guy who thinks the same as I do about those things ......and always be honest about your feelings I would talk to him .....you should always be able to be open with your partner

[Alexiafaye]

I don't agree with it either and feel just like its cheating. Another woman is making my man get off. It's the same thing to me. But we worked through our problems. People always say guys are guys and that I'm uptight but that's my preference and nobody can tell me I'm wrong. It's simple if he wants to be with me he won't watch it. And if that's such a huge problem I don't need a guy who will pick a video over me. Stick to your feelings love. You are NOT wrong for feeling this way : )

[LeyneLubin]

Personally, I don't do the porn thing. Not my cup of tea. My fiance doesn't watch it. I don't play that nonsense. Its rude and disrespectful. Like I'm right here...what you gotta watch other people have sex for? And the fb thing. Idk if it's open then...iGuess. Depends on what they talking about.

[holly_ett]

I would only be mad about the porn thing if it were one of the cam video ones where they get to see a girl on actual cam and basically tell her what they want her toto do cause to me that's like cheating. If it were just a movie type website then I wouldn't care as much. I have caught my hubby on the cam site and I was mad for days cause it made me feel like I wasn't good enough. As for Facebook I think u should just talk to him and see what's up with him talking to other women, maybe there's a reason. My hubby doesn't have Facebook but I do because of family. I know it's sad but that is the only place I seem to talk to my parents but my husband has all access to it

[krizmart]

I agree with ashley and delaina,im recently having this problem so i understand completely where you are coming from and you have every right to be upset about the porn issue. And as for fb i say both of you should permanantly delete it, me and my man HAD to otherwise we'd be fighting literally everyday. Goodluck i hope you feel better.

[lolliepop1991]

Ok i think its a matter of opinions. I dont believe there is anything wrong with porn... me & my bf used to watch it together. He doesnt do it infront of me now obvs but i dont mind if he does when i'm not there. He has needs too... i know he'd never cheat & people who say it is cheating well i've been cheated on... it most definatley isnt. The fb thing... i talk to male friends all the time & he doesnt complain. It works both ways.  

[DelainaN]

I agree with Ashley ^ porn/strip clubs are for  single men who can't get any, i feel it's disrespectful and mentally cheating. My husband and I deleted our facebooks. Facebook is one of the leading causes of divorce I read! How fd up is that! So were all better off without it , especially during our pregnancy days our minds tend to wonder and we think the worst and are insecure it blows

[AshleyDMcCaig]

I dont like porn and neither does my old man, otherwise I would be irritated, its just gross... but with fb, maybe you should talk to him about it? I ended up deactivating mine because my old man hated when I had it and it wasn't worth the fights. I would be upset if he was talking to girls, just the same as he would get upset if i talk to guys. If the guy isnt family or my bestfriend, then I dont talk to them unless I happen to see said person in public... good luck girl!

[breee08]

Porn is really not a big deal, if me and my husband couldn't have sex I would watch it myself, and know that we both will after baby is born and can't for 4-6 weeks. When he works out of town, I've made jokes like ru ******* a blonde or brunette tonight? Lol. You guys need to be more open with eachother. Lets be real, guys start masturbating in like 5th grade. I Would be upset about fb if they were private messages. But that's another thing of communication you guys will have to learn how to do