spanking

[mommyofaria]

This is a highly talked about topic...I just wanted to know how you ladies feel.....would you or do you spank your child?

[rachyrou]

I would never do it. Me and my brother were never spanked or hit and we were very well behaved kids. I will discipline in other ways that don't involve physical contact. Just don't like it at all.

[Stax360]

i rarely smack its a last resort, i used it more when the kids starting walking and mainly a quick smack to the fingers, as they got bigger i did it less. I was smacked as a kid and it never hurt me. I do how ever draw the line at using belts,paddles or weapons of any kind usd to punish kids

[Juniorsmija]

I would never hit my kids. I learned from raising my cuzins lil boy that talking to him and getting him to understry and what he did was wrong and why gets better resuts than when his mom spanked him. He was an out of control brat and since i took him in, hes been a very respectful and well mannered boy who now even asks to pray over our every meal and not once have i laid a hand on him or even raised my voice at him.

[Babylovaa]

I honestly don't believe in spankings. I was never spanked as a child and I feel as if I turned out just fine! When my son misbehaves he receives a warning and if his behavior continues depending on the situation he'll get a time out or he'll lose something (tv, game systems, toys, outside play with friends). In almost every situation a warning works for him and very rarely has he needed a time out or had anything taken away from him. I've seen children in my family who are spanked and it actually makes their behavior worse. They become angry and I've seen them take their frustrations out on their siblings, friends and even animals. Instead of the parents explaining what they did wrong the child expects a spanking and continues on with the bad behavior.

[DNP47]

I spank for direct defiance. I was really blessed though, I have awesome kids that Ive had to spank a handful of times in their lives. I think there should be an age limit so to speak, I think spanking is only effective for a short amount of time. Once they get to be about 7-8 years old, I think there are more effective disciplinary actions.

My uncle still spanks his kids who are 12 and 14, its just ludicrous to me.

[mrsreeder2be]

Yep! I spank my two boys now, and I plan to spank this lil girl too. It's usually the last effort for punishment, and it usually works. Especially with my oldest!

[laceylace_2004]

Luckily, time out works for us. Some days, he can be just like his daddy and be as stubborn as a mule! We can do time out, spank, take toys away, and etc, and he is just stubborn! We have an iPad, and he loves his games I downloaded for him. So I had enough one day and grounded him from the iPad, and I hid them for 8 hours. Needless to say, even though he is two, he knows what being grounded means, and it works like a charm. His bedroom has been spotless for 2 weeks straight!

[lisas9]

I do with mine but only if they are going to hurt or endanger themselves or someone else or for repeated defiance after sitting on the naughty step. I think the important thing is to do it to teach them a lesson, NOT out of your own anger or frustration with them.

[zachsmommy30]

For me it doesn't work it starts a tantrums so I put him in his bed until he calmes down

[mommyofaria]

Honestly this is my first child and I'm only going to spank her if every other action fails....I was spanked here or there but only because I'm the only girl so I was spoiled but respectful....I don't see a problem with it as long as it doesn't turn in abuse...but I suppose to each its own

[always_smile]

I do  if all else fails. And it's not even hard, It hurts his feelings more than anything and just  lets him know mommy is serious and he needs to stop.

[kennimae92]

Honestly I think if it is done in a correct manner and environment I have never seen a problem with tapping a bottom or hand. A correct manner as in not doing it when angered and just for correctional purposes. I know when I was young I learned from it with what was right and wrong and once I reached a certain age the spankings stopped and I lost privlages.

[mommyd2012]

I was raised bein spanked and by spanked I mean open hand over my mama's knee with no mark left behind! I'm ok with a spanking like that but once you cross the line and start using force and leaving marks...it's not spanking anymore! For someone to leave a mark means you had force and anger behind it and that in my eyes is abuse! My husband believes in the same thing! We will raise our child with spanking (as I was raised open hand no marks no force)!  I don't know if anyone else notice this or not but before "spanking" became across as a ba thing kids were respectful of other people and their parents! Today kids are very disrespectful and act like they can run everything just because a little tap on the butt is considered abuse these days!

Just my opinion! I respect other opinions and it is ultimately your choice how to raise your children! What you think is best for them is really what is best for them! Many blessings to you and your family!

[glittergirl88]

I got spanked when I was a kid and I don't feel traumatized from it. I may swat my kid if I feel like I really need to.  

[mommyofaria]

I do my god son the same way...I only pop him if everything else fails....its just that when you do spank your child you get the ugliest looks like.your the worst mom in America...its horrible :/

[amy8702]

I tap my son on the hand when he went for things he couldn't have. Not to the extent to hurt him. More or less to surprise him. He never cried from it always just looked at me like he was insulted lol

[stacey10]

I do, I try everything else first but sometimes a quick smack on the bum lets them know your serious, especially when they get to that "special"place that they go to and there is just no getting through to them lol