ahhh!! i dont know what to do ?HELP

[Tay9662]

so i currently live with my grandparents, since its getting towards the end of my pregnancy and shes going to help me with the baby during maternity since im a ftm.. well everything was good until i was told today that my nephew was moving in, I CANNOT LIVE WITH HIM!! hes only 6, but he is sooooo perverted and is mean he hit me in the face today with a keychain full of keys(not the first time hes pulled stuff like this), hes also kicked me in the stomach while i was sleeping and says things like "he doesnt want me to have this baby"and "he doesnt like this baby" etc etc....no one cares what he says or how he acts he called my grandmother a "fatass" the other day, comeon who lets a child call someone that but no one punishees him, they just say"hes being a kid" im sorry but i remember being beat and i mean beat for things 10x less than calling my grandma a fatass, maybe they've just mellowed over the years but i cant believe this. i fear for my babys safety once shes born, cause of how he acts what if im at work and she has the baby and he hurts her?? i wouldnt be able to control myself id never let my grandmother see my baby again and id hurt that boy i know hes going to try something cause of how he already acts towards her and shes not even here!! please someone tell me what i should do ?? how do i bring this up or consult my grandparents???? i also learned today that he's been "touched or molested by his moms boyfriend little boy(who is 7) whats to say he wont try to touch or hurt my baby girl in that way ???? o.O please please give me some advice

[val_mommy2b]

Woke his lil *** and sit your down and tell him that he is a kid but kids also need training before he grows up and becomes a teenager or an adult and tell her that you are scared for your safety your baby's safety and her safety he is out of hand no love lost towards him but something has to be done and if she won't do anything take matters into your own hands.

[Tay9662]

ughh ok so i found out today that the man(who him and his mom were living with) his son(7) was "touching" my nephew my sisters comment on this was "he cant be blammed because he was molested when he was 4.." come on the child had no diciplanary action after they found out he's been doing this not only to my nephew(6) but his little sister(4).. i dont think this type of behavior should be excused how its been, he needs to be wooped and told its wrong. my grandmother feels the same as my sister and says its because he was molested when he was 4, but i swear if my nephew ever touches my baby im going to flip the hell out, would a normal person be okay with this?? and just excuse it because what has happened to him b4?? i tried to explain the way i feel by saying " a rapist doesnt get out of jail free cards when he rapes just because he was molested as a child" my nephew knows its wrong but he stil acts in this perverted way trying to grab on womans boobs and guys penis' and at my baby shower the other day the kids were playing outside "him another little boy, and 2 or 3 girls) and he pulls down his pants and tells a little girl to touch it.. her older brother shoved my nephew for saying this" and my sister and grandmother got mad at the little boy for defending his sister, its like they condone his behavior by saying "oh, kids will be kids" and laughing it off.... grrrrr

[mrs_araujo]

Maybe you can have them inrole him in a after school program, so he won't need to be picked up until 4 something, if possible.  I'm trying to think of everything for you :/

[Tay9662]

im due aug 29th, so yea he will be in school but im a waitress and sometimes i dont get off til 5/6 so he would be home after 2:30.. theres no way i could have her watch my baby if hes there, cause even if i open(which is at 11am) the earliest they would cut me is 4, so yea

[mrs_araujo]

Have a sit down talk with her. When are you due?  If your due in August or September you might be able to work it out where your nephew is in school while you work, and grandma watch your lil girl ...

[Tay9662]

well i have plenty of places to go.. i have alot of family its just i need her help once i have the baby cause shes the only one in my family that doesnt work that has had children and can help me if i need help with anything and she knows alot more than me.. i just dont know how to tell her the way i feel

[mrs_araujo]

A women's shelter,  and maybe take time off work until you can move in with your bf. I stayed in a women's shelter for a week when my daughter was 5 months old... it wasn't bad at all please check into a women's shelter the one i state in gave me my own room since she had to sleep in a crib.  Good luck hun and keep us posted...

[Tay9662]

thanks ^^

[mommy2be_0912]

He needs discipline ! He's too old to get away with the things he's doing. I would also advise you to move out because his mom and your grandmother allows him to act out. Which isn't right but it's her decision, just stay away from him if he's trying to hurt you in order to hurt your child.

[Tay9662]

that didnt really answer my question.. im here because im getting close to the end of my pregnancy and my bd works all the time, and only staying until the babys about a month old so she can help a little.. but if hes going to be living there i need to tell her how i feel and idk what to do im not going to feel comfortable with her watching my baby if hes there(while im at work) id really rather pay someone in my family than a total stranger to watch my baby

[Ashdub07]

Move out. That's all I can say. It's grammas house she can let him move in if she wants. Sorry how it's working out