custody, help!

[emeryg]

Will I most likely win custody since my daughter has been living with me for three years I live with my uncles, grandma, and parents which we have all been showing her a ridiculous amount of love since birth so which ever way she goes in the house she has relatives everywhere that show her love left and right. Also Ive held a job to support her i buy her so much stuff shes spoiled and I am now recently going to college to become an RN, full time student. I dont do drugs i have a Clean backround. Well her father thinks with child support he can have her for the weekends is there a way I can stop that I will go extremely crazy if someone took my child away from me Im with her 24/7 she wont even get near him she doesnt know its her father, he never sees her never  bought her a thing he smokes weed dropped out of school has no place to live I hear he has another kid which he signed his rights over to, he went to jail when o was 4 months pregnant for putting his hands on his mom he goes to texas tropical for angerproblems and is supposed to Take meds. Like seeiously is there honestly a chance hed have partial rights to Take her or see her?

[ReneeM1987]

You can change your daughters last name to yours. It costs money though and his consent but he won't have to pay child support anymore

[emeryg]

Well what if I dont want child support cause  honestly if its gonna come down to this I dont need his money my daughter already has plenty of support.

[wishes2891]

If he pays child support he'll have the right to ask for visitation. With all you say about him he probably wouldn't be granted more than supervized visitation but it is something you risk if you want child support.

[asmith21488]

He will probably get supervised visitations if he takes the initiative to go to family court...generally c.s and custody are two seperate things and even if he doesnt pay he still has rights....be prepared for him to have supervised visitation at the court house if he does go forward

[thirdandlastbaby]

Bring that up if you do go to court. The CPS stuff, his violent jail behavior and arrest for that etc. I actually took away rights from my two older kids dad for the very same reason. He had meth trafficking charges and I had put him in jail for domestic violence twice (the second time we weren't living together, he come to my apartment high one night and kicked the door in and tried to choke me) I don't get child support now because I terminated his rights but its not like he was paying anyway. I was supposed to get $500 a month, in 1 year I only got $100. So yeah talk to a lawyer and see what you can get done.

[emeryg]

He was living with his mother but the landlord demanded he needs to leave cause there Were many complaints on him from neighbors theyd here him hitting walls and yelling loud when he was angry. So where ever Hes at isnt stable.

[emeryg]

I already filed two years ago they Just barley sent me a letter saying I have an interview on the 6th. Oh yeah and not only does he have all that horrible stuff on him but we also had cps called on him 3 different times stating he was abusive. It didnt get very far cause we split up once we split cps left but they said if they ever find out we Were together again theyd Take us to court.

[Ohbebebaby]

Has he filed any papers with Family Court? If not, I would suggest you go directly to Child Support Court and request Child Support.  Ironically, as long as you request CS the courts will proceed in your favor. Try not to stress,  but make sure you have a plan. Trust me, file for Child support immediately. Custody will become extra hard once its enforced.

[ReneeM1987]

He might just be saying that but won't make the move and go to court especially if be hasn't seen her since she's been born. I was kind of in the same boat but demand that you want to have supervised visitation because you don't trust him. Explain to the judge the exact thing you said here, that he smokes and all that other stuff. Since he is the father he would be able to have rights to see her on the weekend but.....i doubt anything will come of it. Good luck and i hope it works out for you. My sons father was a piece of **** and i told the judge that i wanted sole custody and if he came around i wanted supervised visits. He told the judge whatever i wanted he would accept.

[emeryg]

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