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[K1990]

At the start of my relationship my boyfriend had mentioned something about porn and I told him that I didn't want him watching porn and it is a very big deal to me.  And he said that he wouldn't watch it.... well he is in a different city, about 60 miles away and when school is in session I only see him on the weekends... well I was on his computer and from what I found I think he is watching porn again.  I am NOT okay with that at all.  How do I say something about it?  I am just so angry with him.

[pertykitty]

you cry over him watching porn then tell us you are sorry we cant talk to our loved ones? lol we arent the ones on here complaining and feeling cheated on.  good luck , you need it.

[sara......]

Thanks for giving me a laugh with your line "it's sad for those of you who can't talk to your lovers." when this is the reason for your original post! Also, if you believe he's NEVER looked at it and its ALL his brother thats a bit concerning! Seriously, guys are very visual which is why so many are into porn (especially if your not around) so I guess it fills a bit of a void. If you have good self esteem and are comfortable with yourself and your relationship I don't really understand why you'd be so upset. Maybe this is what you should be more concerned about. Good luck.

[jd1419]

If what your fiance said is true--then he needs to get his own passowrd to his computer--why would he let his borther use it to look at porn with the possiblity of you also using this computer and seeing the history of the sites he went to.  Ask him to no longer let h is brother on and then you will not have this issue of sites being on their that someone else ha looked at....and then erase the history so he can start from scratch.....then when you go on there next time it will be his own history and no one else's and then see what has been looked at....if he was telling you the whole truth nothing liek that should ever "pop up" again and you won't have any concerns.  Good Luck

[ksanden]

i think porn is better then him going out and getting it somewhere else. just what i think..
ksanden

[girliegrl1723]

i feel sorry for you. you are naive. i had this same "issue" with my now husband and have to say that what rock rose first responded is all you really need to hear. either break up with him or accept the porn. i chose to just accept it. whatever. no big deal. we have a good sex life and he's not cheating on me. whats the big deal? just wait til you guys live together. you'll find it more and more. i don't think i know a man that doesn't enjoy watching porn. its def a gut thing and as much as we like to think so, guys can never change. good luck. this problem will explode later down the line i'm sure when you find a dvd in his sock drawer.

[chellybeans]

i hope your trust is deserved, but experience tells me you are in for a hurt.

good luck , and if he is really being truthful, i think you got some good advice with regards to the seperate password protected accounts.