boyfriend forcing himself on me

[ish89]

i am really scared and confused and dont know who to turn to

i have been with my boyfriend for only 2 weeks and the first time we went out i just wanted to tlk to him and get to know him a bit more, as we have been good m8s for the last 6 months or so

but he only had one thing on his mind. he has had sex before but i am a virgin and he promised me tht he would not touch me until i felt ready. yet when we in his car he would not stop touching me, he managed to pull all my clothes off him and was kissing me everywhere

i told him to stop and tht i felt uncomfotable but he just would not listen
he tried to enter me but couldnt as i was very dry down there
he started making me rub his penis even though i didnt want to touch him there and he stuck 3 fingers up to try n make me wet and this was very painful

eventually he just came all over my stomach and vagina and chucked a tissue on me and told me to clean myself up
he then told me to put my clothes on and drove me home
he could see i was upset but all he could say was not to worry about it and maybe it was not the right time to happen

i've spoken to him since and he keeps making excuses, as far as he is concerned 'nothing actually happened' and he just cant see wot he has wrong
even though i still really like him i've finished with him

the only problem is tht we are work colleagues and i still have to see him everyday at work
he just acts as if nothing has happened and laughs and jokes around with his mates

i just feel really suicidal and i have lost all my self confidence
i really dont know wot to do

[Judy246]

I have to agree with all the above and this is date rape. What this rapist (I won't even all him your boyfirend) did is not only illegal, but a CRIME against your will. He forced himself on you against your will and touched you inappropriately with force sexual intentions in your private part, it's a rape. My advise is to file a police report on the incident. It will be considered either an attempt rape or assult, but what he did is a crime. Please tell your mother, she will support you and protect you. I would never see him a gain and if you feel threatened at any time, have your mother put a peace bond on him, where he can't come anywhere near you.

Also, you don't want to be anywhere near him, so quit this job immediately or start looking for one now. This is not your fault. You did absolutely nothing wrong and their is no reason why you should want to take your precious gift of life over someone who is evil, malicious, opportunist, violent (yes, that's against your will and it's considered violence), preditor and if you don't leave him know, he will rape you, because he is aware that you won't leave him. Run....and don't look back!

[jo929]

You should have reported it right after it happened, but as it is leave him be, and do not try and even talk with him ignore hin as if he is not there if he speaks to you just walk away, he will get the message, also it is a stupid idea to feel suicidal obver a thing like this there are more important things to consider move on with your life, and chalk this up to life, an one lousy man, do  not ever let another guy get you undressrd if you do not want it kick him in the groin area always carry hair spray or something i am sorry this has happened to you, but i think that this happens a lot it might have been worse and remember do not talk with the louse  luck  jo

[BornofOsiris]

this isnt almost rape it is!! i can understand if you dont want to report it, but if you need to then you should...im sorry this happened to you i wish guys like that didnt put such a bad rep on guys like me...Plz try not to get down about this, its not your fault he is the piece of sh*t

[heatherlynn22]

you need to report it! he assaulted you and that is NOT acceptable! he needs to understand that what he did was wrong and it was NOT ok. you told him you did not want to and he forced you.

and if you do feel suicidal please talk to a counselor. even a rape counselor. he may not have been able to get his penis inside of you but he still tried and that is a traumatic experience. that is something that is very hard to deal with on your own. trust me....i know. talking about it with someone could help a lot.

[mami1323]

I agree, you should report it and let the consequences be him losing his job.  NO man should force themselves on a woman no matter what form it is.  He basically assaulted you and will most likely to it to someone else unless you do something.  I understand your scared but it takes a lot of strength to bring something like this out in the open.  Even if you have no evidence just the investigation into him would be enough to show him that you are not taking this lightly.

[ish89]

its has been a week since the incident and i am startin to feel better but it hurts me tht he shows no remorse
my best friend has told me to report it to the police as it was actually attempted rape but i have no evidence, it would just be my word against him

i feel as if he is gettin away with it and its not fair, wot if he does it with some other girl in the future

[teko]

No reason for you to feel suicidal or embarrassed or anything else for that matter. I would imagine he is feeling pretty embarrassed himself. I would call this very darn near date rape,  and is against the law. He just proved to you how guys cannot handle anything other than bam bam and thankya ma"am. Not worth the time and energy and you need to not be gettin with guys like him! Lose it! He be the one who should be red faced for sure!  You aint missin nothin! Laugh about it and go on.