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Closure
Hi, ive been posting on here about how to let go etc etc
I found out the truth on the weekend, that my ex/first love lied to me. He lied when he told me he loved me.
For me at the time, it meant everything as no one had ever been in love with me so it had a huge impact on me and my life. Then i also found out he regreted our relationship.
All of these points has it made it clear to me how stupid ive been to hang on for so long.
I do not understand his logic at all in why he had to lie and what he was thinking when he was because he knew all about him being my first boyfriend and you would think he would be as honest as he could.
Now I don't know how im meant to trust another guy who tells me he loves me, I don't think he realises how insensitive he was to lie about something like love to someone who's never been loved.
At least I have found closure, I only wish he could have straight up and truthful when we broke up, I would never have hung on this long,As he lead me on after we broke up, its taken me a year to try and let go. If he had told me all this when we had broken up, I would never want him in my life again and never want to speak to him at all.
Anyway
Just thought i'd update you and any advice for the future would be great
I ramble a bit
I found out the truth on the weekend, that my ex/first love lied to me. He lied when he told me he loved me.
For me at the time, it meant everything as no one had ever been in love with me so it had a huge impact on me and my life. Then i also found out he regreted our relationship.
All of these points has it made it clear to me how stupid ive been to hang on for so long.
I do not understand his logic at all in why he had to lie and what he was thinking when he was because he knew all about him being my first boyfriend and you would think he would be as honest as he could.
Now I don't know how im meant to trust another guy who tells me he loves me, I don't think he realises how insensitive he was to lie about something like love to someone who's never been loved.
At least I have found closure, I only wish he could have straight up and truthful when we broke up, I would never have hung on this long,As he lead me on after we broke up, its taken me a year to try and let go. If he had told me all this when we had broken up, I would never want him in my life again and never want to speak to him at all.
Anyway
Just thought i'd update you and any advice for the future would be great
I ramble a bit
Girl! When you do meet the "ONE", the memory of this dude will be like a bad zit breakout, and you will be soooo glad you left him in your past. Think of how it would have been if you stayed with someone not worthy of you. Awful!
COMMUNITY LEADER
I'm sorry, I know this hurts. Time does heal those wounds------- so give it time. I think talking to someone about what made you want to hang on in the form of therapy would be helpful so you don't repeat any patterns. But overall, becoming your bet self is the best therapy. Work on what you want your future to look like and start doing the things necessary to accomplish it. Work on your friend relationships, hobbies, exercise and do the things you want to do. You'll meet a better man for you in time. good luck
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