What turns men on the most?

[Lola_mama]

Just for fun, I was wondering what types of things turn a man on the most in the bedroom? I would love to hear thoughts and ideas from men and women, young and old, married or single, etc! Please feel free to be open when describing your suggestions too! I want as many ideas as I can get, so I can start executing them every so often w/ my husband and see his reactions! Lol ; )

[Lola_mama]

Just wanted to note that I've been typing from my iPhone, so please forgive the typos in my comment above. The one I noticed in particular was where I said "he is the only one who is I'm control of that" when what I meant to say was "he is the only one who is IN control of that". My apologies!

[Lola_mama]

Thanks! And, believe me, I have found myself pretty submerged in sex/relationship websites lately! Lol ; ) Found a really fun one (but warning: it's a bit on the dirty side) called 'Askdanandjennifer.com', that gives SOOO many fun tips about sex and how to spice it up in the bedroom when you're married and things start becoming a little on the mundane side. I stumbled upon it about 6 months ago when I found myself feeling tired of the "same old same old", and wanting to surprise my hubby w/ something new and exciting to let him know that even though we've been together for going on 9yrs (married for 7. Yikes, the big "7 year itch"! Lol) and have 3 children together, we can still enjoy a great sex life together, and find lots of sexy new activities to keep things interesting and arousing for both of us! After being married for a while (and ESPECIALLY, after 3 kids!), it's easy to fall into letting those negative thoughts creep into your mind that maybe you just aren't attractive or exciting enough for your spouse, and for me, that lead to a little bit of paranoia that all the horror stories I hear around me might come true and he could end up directing those desires elsewhere (whether it be pornography, or worse, an affair). I am incredibly lucky to have a husband who I truly believe would never ever do that to me, but I think it's safe to say that the women out there who's husbands DID cheat on them, likely had that same faith in them, so I am not one to assume that I'm protected 100%. I know that it is not my job to ensure that my husband faithful to me. He is the only one who is I'm control of that, but making sure to keep his needs and desires in mind, and doing my best to make sure he's satisfied and happy, certainly doesn't hurt anything! I know that he does the same for me, so it's a two way street, that's for sure! Anyway, all of the tips I've found online have been so helpful, and I have truly seen a huge difference! It has improved my libido and made me actually WANT sex more, and needless to say, my husband has been thrilled about it to say the least! I especially like posting here though, because it's a community of normal everyday people just like me, and when I read the comments here, I KNOW they're honest, realistic, and from the heart!! ; )

[iam1butterfly]

lingerie...
i.e., silky, form-fitting high-cut panties and satiny, shear/semi-transparent bras... choose any color except, white. White is not as much a turn-on as other colors, like black and red. The right lingerie makes a "come hither" statement and can send the imagination into a favorable frenzy!

fragrance... lightly applied just below the ear lobes and a quick spritz in your hair. I find that many men seem to be attracted to, Yves St Laurent's Opium parfum.

[ConnieG]

You can probably judge by his reaction which he likes better.  If he's shy he may prefer not to say out loud.  My dh likes when i just grab him and am ready for him right there, whever we are in the house.
You can look in cosmo they usually have really fun games to play and they are sometimes rated by real guys.  Also online searching can come up with fun things.

[Lola_mama]

Thanks everyone! I've been trying out a lot of new things w/ him over the past month or so, but he's kinda shy when it comes to this stuff, so I'm never quite sure what he likes the most. I do ask him if he liked certain things, but his answer is always the same... "yeah, I loved that!". Of course, that's what I wanna hear, and it makes me feel good when he tells me he enjoys things I do, but I really want him to tell me which ones drive him wild! Keep the ideas coming, and don't worry about being "graphic"! That's helpful so I know exactly what you mean! Lol ; ) If there are any men who could give me some feedback on how to get my hubby to open up w/ these things, that would be great as well!

[p123p456]

My boyfriend likes dirty talk (sometimes) and surprising him with sex (though that's harder to do with kids!). He also likes (sorry if this gets too graphic!) "facials" but that's only once in a very long while. Also the shower :)

[Vance2335]

As a man here is what I like. Not all of the time but from time to time. Being openminded, trying new things, wearing something very sexy (trashy), being vocal in bed, having wife be in control (only once in a while), "starting" things by herself and me walking in on it.

[stellarlunacy]

the biggest turn on for anybody, i would think, is confidence and the willingness to be open-minded to new/experimental experiences. :)