Do you believe?

[specialmom]

So, my new thing for the new year . . .   positive attracts positive and negative attracts negative.  Sure, we've all heard that for years . . .   but what do you think about it?  I have done a good deal of reading as of late and there really does seem to be something to it.  I listened to a podcast from a well known financial planner that said her number one tip is to think of your top financial goal, write it on paper and tape it to where you get ready for the day (bathroom mirror).  She said her clients who did this had a much higher rate of succeeding in their goal. I find that fascinating!  I'm trying positive attracts positive with my relationships.  With my husband.  I am focusing on what is positive.  I'm focusing on being positive.  And seeing if it is returned to me.  :>)  So far so good.

What are your thoughts on this in your relationships and life?  

[specialmom]

ha ha manroot, you think this is some kind of attraction we have going on?  Pretty sure neither of us are feeling that.  So, really, not sure any point was proven.  :))  

Okay, have a positive and happy day (or try to).  

[RockRose]

Well,  manroot,  looking through your profile it does look like you struggle with negative thought processes,  and that may be why you decided to post in this thread.

Like you,  I've found that writing down negative thoughts gets them out of my head.  I have very vivid dreams,  every single night,  and about half are negative.  First thing in the morning,  I go to my computer and write down the dreams,  and then they are truly gone from my thought process.  If I don't do that,  I'm kind of dogged by them all morning until about noon.  Makes for some pretty slow starts.  So that does work,  on paper,  out of mind.

But I really think you might benefit from trying to look for the positives.  Whether you're christian or not,  doesn't matter,  people from all belief systems believe you can direct your attention toward positive and away from negative just by looking for positive ideas.

It's both Christian "seek and ye shall find" and secular,  "if you expect to find something you generally will".  

I think if you took just literally one day,  and everywhere you went you looked for the positive - someone being a caring parent,  a beautiful flower,  a funny bumper sticker,  a sweet smiling dog.  Catalog in your head what you see that's positive,  and dismiss the negative thought patterns.

It's really amazing how much better you feel.

[manroot]

See, I'm proving a point, positive attracts negative & negative attracts positive. If we had agreed, this topic would have died long ago. I get to up my post count by making your positive thread negative, while at the same time making this negative forum positive. It's a psychological lesson based on impulsive behaviors. Impulsivity is a sign of low mood, clinginess, and general insecurity. That's why I should get off the net and be positive, because this forum ***** the life out of everyone on here. This is a void, that should be avoided at all costs. Live and be free from the net. lol bye mom.

[manroot]

Once you're happy and stable. There's not much to fix. Not sure what this topic is meant to do but brag about your happy life that just gets happier and happier by spending all your waking hours on the net. Sounds a little too happy to be true.

[specialmom]

It does when you let it.  

I'm experiencing good things with trying to remain more positive in my long term marriage that was already stable and happy.  Who doesn't want to be happier?  

I guess you are saying that being negative works for you and that is great if it does.  

[manroot]

I understand now, this is the positive thread, to fight off negativity.

It's ironical, considering 90% of this forum is dedicated to not having enough sex, fighting over pornography, hating on their spouse, leaving their significant other...

Negative always seems to cloud out the positive...