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Do you believe?
So, my new thing for the new year . . . positive attracts positive and negative attracts negative. Sure, we've all heard that for years . . . but what do you think about it? I have done a good deal of reading as of late and there really does seem to be something to it. I listened to a podcast from a well known financial planner that said her number one tip is to think of your top financial goal, write it on paper and tape it to where you get ready for the day (bathroom mirror). She said her clients who did this had a much higher rate of succeeding in their goal. I find that fascinating! I'm trying positive attracts positive with my relationships. With my husband. I am focusing on what is positive. I'm focusing on being positive. And seeing if it is returned to me. :>) So far so good.
What are your thoughts on this in your relationships and life?
What are your thoughts on this in your relationships and life?
COMMUNITY LEADER
I am finding that when I put out positive energy, people are usually warm in return. Of course when someone has deep negativity within and find that to be impossible or very difficult, it is an uphill battle. For me, it can be easy to see what is wrong with something but it am trying to shift to seeing it for what is right.
My husband can be a bit cloudy at times. I nicknamed the grim reaper when he is in this mood. He's like that character with a storm cloud over his head. That is his issue to deal with. Being moody is on his to do list for working on. I am so blessed that he recognizes this.
Relationships work best when each take the time to evaluate their own issues and try to make progress (no matter how small) at improving them.
I could, with his moodiness, berate him, treat him bad, give him the cold shoulder and any number of 'negative things' but have found that if I remain positive (realizing it is HIS issue and not mine)--- he sure comes out of that a lot quicker.
Just some personal sharing there on things I notice in my own relationship.
My husband can be a bit cloudy at times. I nicknamed the grim reaper when he is in this mood. He's like that character with a storm cloud over his head. That is his issue to deal with. Being moody is on his to do list for working on. I am so blessed that he recognizes this.
Relationships work best when each take the time to evaluate their own issues and try to make progress (no matter how small) at improving them.
I could, with his moodiness, berate him, treat him bad, give him the cold shoulder and any number of 'negative things' but have found that if I remain positive (realizing it is HIS issue and not mine)--- he sure comes out of that a lot quicker.
Just some personal sharing there on things I notice in my own relationship.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Not sure what you are talking about manroot. I was talking about myself and my relationship with my husband. Rather than be irritated at the little things, I focus on the positive aspects and am noticing it is improving my relationship.
If all your focus is on positive? Are you then ignoring negative? It would seem wise to find solutions to negative problems... that way you improve the whole... rather than live in ignorant bliss.
Praying is no substitute for those who live in reality. We all rely on hard work, research, analysis, and global trends. These things are what run a stock portfolio; not magical thinking. Same is true for any business.
Anybody who establishes goals and commits to them will accomplish them. A checklist is most handy and can be found with a daily planner, an "at a glance" notebook. It's a bit more expensive than post-it notes, but organizationally speaking, everything is centrally located in one book, which is also a calendar (and this can be had @ Staples for ~26 bucks.) Most folks use a tablet or hand held device. Post-its get messy quick.
When life is in disarray, with no plan, no goal setting, no checklist, no routine -- you're not going to accomplish much, nor stay to task.
Those "negative" folks, to which you refer, I'd be a bit more empathetic and understanding. They might not have had the best upbringing, they may have been abused, they're coping methods may be lacking, they could be pained, suffer from illness, or simply that their brain chemistry or genetic disposition differs from "norm." Empathy is always a good trait.
It doesn't matter how many negative people surround you. If you're okay with yourself and stay true to yourself, you have nothing to worry about (even if you're the grumpiest ******* on the planet.) Although, it's much easier if you've been properly diagnosed so that your illness can be treated.
One man's positive is another's negative. Just depends on who's flippin' the coin.
Anybody who establishes goals and commits to them will accomplish them. A checklist is most handy and can be found with a daily planner, an "at a glance" notebook. It's a bit more expensive than post-it notes, but organizationally speaking, everything is centrally located in one book, which is also a calendar (and this can be had @ Staples for ~26 bucks.) Most folks use a tablet or hand held device. Post-its get messy quick.
When life is in disarray, with no plan, no goal setting, no checklist, no routine -- you're not going to accomplish much, nor stay to task.
Those "negative" folks, to which you refer, I'd be a bit more empathetic and understanding. They might not have had the best upbringing, they may have been abused, they're coping methods may be lacking, they could be pained, suffer from illness, or simply that their brain chemistry or genetic disposition differs from "norm." Empathy is always a good trait.
It doesn't matter how many negative people surround you. If you're okay with yourself and stay true to yourself, you have nothing to worry about (even if you're the grumpiest ******* on the planet.) Although, it's much easier if you've been properly diagnosed so that your illness can be treated.
One man's positive is another's negative. Just depends on who's flippin' the coin.
manroot, there is a a new branch of Christianity, called Prosperity Theology. It's exactly what SM was talking about, although I don't think she was specifically talking about this phenomenon within the context of Christianity. Anyway, it's making waves and discomfort in traditional protestant churches, where traditionally they pray for comfort and God's will. In the prosperity churches, they specifically pray for wealth and write notes about their financial goals on their mirrors and dashboards, and pray specifically that certain stocks do well, etc. There does seem to be something to it.
SM - I completely agree that it's more fun and energizing to be around positive people. You can get into a habit, as a social circle, of gossiping and negativity and it just ***** you in. I'm currently in an extended group of friends where anyone can leave the room, and know their name is safe in our mouths. Literally, anything said about them behind their backs - if they overheard it - would not hurt them. What a pleasure, and a relief!! Positive is great.
Maya Angelou had a discussion about the grocery store experience in the US. What an incredible blessing, she said, to be able to walk into a large modern grocery store, and be surrounded with all the blessings of the earth. That store is piled high with beautiful, delicious fresh delightful foods, and you can feed your family anything that you want. Any food in the world, is right there and you can buy it and feed your family from this overflowing bounty. What an incredible gift, and a pleasure to walk through and choose what you will eat that day. And yet, you look around and most of the customers are scowling and are completely annoyed with the chore of picking out all the food they will eat. Amazing. i love the grocery store, and notice other people who love it too.
I love the idea of waking up and telling yourself positive things first thing in the morning. Starts your day off on a really nice roll . . .
Again, love this topic. Food for thought.
SM - I completely agree that it's more fun and energizing to be around positive people. You can get into a habit, as a social circle, of gossiping and negativity and it just ***** you in. I'm currently in an extended group of friends where anyone can leave the room, and know their name is safe in our mouths. Literally, anything said about them behind their backs - if they overheard it - would not hurt them. What a pleasure, and a relief!! Positive is great.
Maya Angelou had a discussion about the grocery store experience in the US. What an incredible blessing, she said, to be able to walk into a large modern grocery store, and be surrounded with all the blessings of the earth. That store is piled high with beautiful, delicious fresh delightful foods, and you can feed your family anything that you want. Any food in the world, is right there and you can buy it and feed your family from this overflowing bounty. What an incredible gift, and a pleasure to walk through and choose what you will eat that day. And yet, you look around and most of the customers are scowling and are completely annoyed with the chore of picking out all the food they will eat. Amazing. i love the grocery store, and notice other people who love it too.
I love the idea of waking up and telling yourself positive things first thing in the morning. Starts your day off on a really nice roll . . .
Again, love this topic. Food for thought.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Rockrose, I'm glad you like the discussion topic. :>)
I totally agree with you that in the instance of a financial planner asking a client to write a goal out and placing it in a spot visible for the day has a lot to do with it being in the forefront of your mind. to me, it is also a bit like an affirmation. My health guru (okay, my favorite fitness teacher at my gym) has been talking so much about positive energy. She's so funny that she says she wakes up and tells herself positive things first thing in the morning. And honestly believes that positivity sets her day off in a direction that would be better than if she didn't. It's interesting to me. It's opposite of those who say bad things about themselves and put themselves down all the time. What do they bring themselves?
anyway, in my marriage---- I think I 'could' think about what drives me nuts about my husband (oh, come on, we all have a thing or two, right?) but instead, I am trying to always switch it. Turn to the positives. Think about my marriage in a way like it is the best marriage ever! And I swear, things just feel happier. My husband seems to follow my lead in this.
When you are around someone with a kind of dark cloud over their head, grumpy, complaining, seeing the negative------ do you want to be with that person? I don't. I begin to avoid them. Verses, the person that is uplifting seeing the positive. I want to be the positive at home with my loved ones.
Happy Valentines day!!!
I totally agree with you that in the instance of a financial planner asking a client to write a goal out and placing it in a spot visible for the day has a lot to do with it being in the forefront of your mind. to me, it is also a bit like an affirmation. My health guru (okay, my favorite fitness teacher at my gym) has been talking so much about positive energy. She's so funny that she says she wakes up and tells herself positive things first thing in the morning. And honestly believes that positivity sets her day off in a direction that would be better than if she didn't. It's interesting to me. It's opposite of those who say bad things about themselves and put themselves down all the time. What do they bring themselves?
anyway, in my marriage---- I think I 'could' think about what drives me nuts about my husband (oh, come on, we all have a thing or two, right?) but instead, I am trying to always switch it. Turn to the positives. Think about my marriage in a way like it is the best marriage ever! And I swear, things just feel happier. My husband seems to follow my lead in this.
When you are around someone with a kind of dark cloud over their head, grumpy, complaining, seeing the negative------ do you want to be with that person? I don't. I begin to avoid them. Verses, the person that is uplifting seeing the positive. I want to be the positive at home with my loved ones.
Happy Valentines day!!!
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