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Do you believe?
So, my new thing for the new year . . . positive attracts positive and negative attracts negative. Sure, we've all heard that for years . . . but what do you think about it? I have done a good deal of reading as of late and there really does seem to be something to it. I listened to a podcast from a well known financial planner that said her number one tip is to think of your top financial goal, write it on paper and tape it to where you get ready for the day (bathroom mirror). She said her clients who did this had a much higher rate of succeeding in their goal. I find that fascinating! I'm trying positive attracts positive with my relationships. With my husband. I am focusing on what is positive. I'm focusing on being positive. And seeing if it is returned to me. :>) So far so good.
What are your thoughts on this in your relationships and life?
What are your thoughts on this in your relationships and life?
You can't give without taking... How do you give/give? and keep giving? What does a financial planner writing post it notes have to do with positive and negative energy? Most confusing question on this board.
Opposites attract, in any relationship, there's always the dominant and the submissive (+/-)
Positive = controlling, Negative = clingy
You get two positives and they deflect each other. It's magnetism.
Life gets boring fast, without disagreement. We might not realize, but what we think of ourselves might actually be the opposite of what others perceive. The other, is that no two moods ever stay constant. The definition is a little too juvenile, because in reality life is much more nuanced, there's a lot of gray between a black & white world view.
Anything that appears within the bounds of "agreement" is probably too good to be true. We all know in a relationship, that the woman is always correct, right? In reality there's disagreement, but... the woman is always correct (for obvious reasons.)
Another example, two of the same (who defines positive from negative anyhow?) deflect each other. A mother in Law + mother = they're both dominant forces during Thanksgiving, they both vie for control. Here's the problem: there's always drama, always conflict. They deflect each other.
Why? because two leaders can't lead. There's always positive and negative...
Positive = controlling, Negative = clingy
You get two positives and they deflect each other. It's magnetism.
Life gets boring fast, without disagreement. We might not realize, but what we think of ourselves might actually be the opposite of what others perceive. The other, is that no two moods ever stay constant. The definition is a little too juvenile, because in reality life is much more nuanced, there's a lot of gray between a black & white world view.
Anything that appears within the bounds of "agreement" is probably too good to be true. We all know in a relationship, that the woman is always correct, right? In reality there's disagreement, but... the woman is always correct (for obvious reasons.)
Another example, two of the same (who defines positive from negative anyhow?) deflect each other. A mother in Law + mother = they're both dominant forces during Thanksgiving, they both vie for control. Here's the problem: there's always drama, always conflict. They deflect each other.
Why? because two leaders can't lead. There's always positive and negative...
But yes, I completely agree that you can usually attract positive energy if you are looking for it, and negative energy if you are putting off those vibes, too. Interesting discussion, SM.
On the "similar and unalike"? I think you may have misunderstood. What Im saying is, the more masculine the guy, the more feminine his partner. And the more gender neutral, androgenous, a person is, the more likely their partner is too. You can picture two engineers having a fabulous relationship, and I certainly see it all the time.
So if you run through the top 10 happily married couples you know, off the top of your head, wouldn't you agree that on the see saw, they are equidistant from the center, in a gender ID way? Very masculine men and very feminine women matched, and most other couples much more in the middle.
So if you run through the top 10 happily married couples you know, off the top of your head, wouldn't you agree that on the see saw, they are equidistant from the center, in a gender ID way? Very masculine men and very feminine women matched, and most other couples much more in the middle.
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Oh, and yes. I wasn't really talking about what 'attracts' couples, I was talking about attracting positive energy and good things to our current relationships. :>) Or negative, as it may be depending on the situation.
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Immature love is like that I guess. I personally see many more couples that are similar than unalike.
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