Oh, and yes. I wasn't really talking about what 'attracts' couples, I was talking about attracting positive energy and good things to our current relationships. :>) Or negative, as it may be depending on the situation.
On the "similar and unalike"? I think you may have misunderstood. What Im saying is, the more masculine the guy, the more feminine his partner. And the more gender neutral, androgenous, a person is, the more likely their partner is too. You can picture two engineers having a fabulous relationship, and I certainly see it all the time.
So if you run through the top 10 happily married couples you know, off the top of your head, wouldn't you agree that on the see saw, they are equidistant from the center, in a gender ID way? Very masculine men and very feminine women matched, and most other couples much more in the middle.
But yes, I completely agree that you can usually attract positive energy if you are looking for it, and negative energy if you are putting off those vibes, too. Interesting discussion, SM.
Opposites attract, in any relationship, there's always the dominant and the submissive (+/-)
Positive = controlling, Negative = clingy
You get two positives and they deflect each other. It's magnetism.
Life gets boring fast, without disagreement. We might not realize, but what we think of ourselves might actually be the opposite of what others perceive. The other, is that no two moods ever stay constant. The definition is a little too juvenile, because in reality life is much more nuanced, there's a lot of gray between a black & white world view.
Anything that appears within the bounds of "agreement" is probably too good to be true. We all know in a relationship, that the woman is always correct, right? In reality there's disagreement, but... the woman is always correct (for obvious reasons.)
Another example, two of the same (who defines positive from negative anyhow?) deflect each other. A mother in Law + mother = they're both dominant forces during Thanksgiving, they both vie for control. Here's the problem: there's always drama, always conflict. They deflect each other.
Why? because two leaders can't lead. There's always positive and negative...
You can't give without taking... How do you give/give? and keep giving? What does a financial planner writing post it notes have to do with positive and negative energy? Most confusing question on this board.
Rockrose, I'm glad you like the discussion topic. :>)
I totally agree with you that in the instance of a financial planner asking a client to write a goal out and placing it in a spot visible for the day has a lot to do with it being in the forefront of your mind. to me, it is also a bit like an affirmation. My health guru (okay, my favorite fitness teacher at my gym) has been talking so much about positive energy. She's so funny that she says she wakes up and tells herself positive things first thing in the morning. And honestly believes that positivity sets her day off in a direction that would be better than if she didn't. It's interesting to me. It's opposite of those who say bad things about themselves and put themselves down all the time. What do they bring themselves?
anyway, in my marriage---- I think I 'could' think about what drives me nuts about my husband (oh, come on, we all have a thing or two, right?) but instead, I am trying to always switch it. Turn to the positives. Think about my marriage in a way like it is the best marriage ever! And I swear, things just feel happier. My husband seems to follow my lead in this.
When you are around someone with a kind of dark cloud over their head, grumpy, complaining, seeing the negative------ do you want to be with that person? I don't. I begin to avoid them. Verses, the person that is uplifting seeing the positive. I want to be the positive at home with my loved ones.
Happy Valentines day!!!