Does cheating make a stronger bond

[pain309]

What I mean is some of my friends have cheated with women,  acting on their fantasies and both understood that, and it seems that they're relationships are stronger than ever, I might be lost but for men some times they just need to act out once in awhile but it doesn't mean they don't love they're partner.  I also know women who have done the same thing and have never been happier in their relationship,  what do you think?

[eel81]

rockrose it shouldnt matter what he offers, i could be offered the world but it doesnt mean he loves me if he is going to sleep around. if some women want an open relationship, that is fine and totally up to them, but that is open where they have spoken about it and discussed it and are totally fine with it, not where he is cheating having tonnes of affairs and its ok all because he gave her the white house. that sounds pretty ridiculous to me. i can honestly say if my husband ever cheated i would sign the divorce papers that day because it means he doesnt love me, he could offer me all the things in this world that i wanted it wouldnt matter it does not make it ok to have an affair just because he offers you things..................................

[RockRose]

Honestly,  I think most men would be happier if they had a loving wife, and had freedom to stray and get some "strange" as often as they want it.

The only time that really works is if you offer her a lifestyle she couldn't possibly achieve herself,   that is so wonderful it mitigates the pain of having you chase after other women.

If you offer your wife the position of First Lady of the United States, for example,  she'd probably overlook what you're doing.  Like Jackie Kennedy and Lady Bird Johnson.

So.  You got that kind of power?   If not,  I wouldn't try it.  It doesn't make the relationship stronger.

[eel81]

i read the heading and all i could think of was NO NO NO  why would you think that, how can it, you would never trust your partner again. i know people say they forgive, but really can you forgive someone for cheating, i know i would never i am not just saying that but if he doesnt love me enough to be faithful then he doesnt love me, no matter what problems we are having it does not give the right to cheat

[babypooh]

Infidelity ruins a marriage and though some decide to forgive, I don't think they forget.  Adultery is a sin and too many men and women come up with excuses, that make sense to only them, to cheat on their spouse.

[lupo]

"disgusting", very blunt yet not very helpful. I like blunt.
Ohh and I also agree with what you said in your other comment, about all of it.

[GRose]

disgusting