Does cheating make a stronger bond

[pain309]

What I mean is some of my friends have cheated with women,  acting on their fantasies and both understood that, and it seems that they're relationships are stronger than ever, I might be lost but for men some times they just need to act out once in awhile but it doesn't mean they don't love they're partner.  I also know women who have done the same thing and have never been happier in their relationship,  what do you think?

[g27gear]

would you feel closer to her is she cheated on you?

[imanaddict]

I guess the answer to your question all depends on if the other person knows about the cheating? If the other person does know, it's possible that the spouse is trying to fulfill the fantasy to keep them from straying again. If the other person doesn't know, then it's possible that the person that cheated is the one making the relationship better out of guilt. Cheating should NEVER be the basis of trying to make a relationship better and have never really understood the logic of cheating when you are  truly in love with someone. Just my opinion anyway...

[mami1323]

Wow, you are definitely delusional if you think that.  I have been with my fiance for 5 1/2 years and just found out that he cheated on me.  We are not good.  Fighting all of the time.  Once that trust is broken, there is no way to rebuild it again.  If you are looking for excuses to justify what you are thinking of doing, then there is a problem in your relationship and maybe you should save her some serious heartbreak and just get out now.  I would much rather had my fiance break up with me then to deal with what I'm dealing with now.  It would've hurt me but at least it wouldn't of damaged everything.  It certainly would've not changed how I look at him now.  Why don't you go and read some of my journal entries on what I went through to gain some sort of understanding of what goes on in the mind of someone who was cheated on and then you can understand what it's like and what it does to a relationship.