Dreams about your ex

[ConfusedLover]

I don't understand why I've been dreaming about him the past week even though its been over a year since we broke up. They always involve me confronting him and trying to tell him it's over and I cant keep seeing him but he still persist on kissing me or whatever the intimate action may be. Ever since the break up, he tries to be friend me and talk like we are somewhat together even though I clearly told him I just can't talk to him anymore because I don't want to rekindle old feelings.

He broke up with me because I was moving and he was going to college because he thought it was n the best interest for the both of us. We were each others first real relationship. I don't know how this translates to my life because Im currently talking to someone else and Im stressed out about the new management position my mom has assigned to me at her new business.

[Nighthawk61]

Oh yes, and you can tell your ex once that you've got a new boyfriend whose very angry about his calling you (it's a little white lie).

[Nighthawk61]

I think that you're dream is simply because he is still trying to stay in contact. He broke up with you , and you want to move on. You must avoid him because he's disrespecting what you're telling him, and that's abusive. Can you block his number? That's the first step. If he harasses you or stalks you it's a case for the cops at that point.

Congratulations on the challenging position at work. A management job at your age might be a little bit overwhelming at first, but you are so lucky for the opportunity. I'm sure you'll do a wonderful job!!

How nice that you've found someone that you might be interested in dating. Yo do need to compartmentalize the feelings you have about your first love. "That was the past and you are moving on!!" It might be as simple as learning to use affirmations.

Here's a bit of what i've found....Say each affirmation five times in the morning before you even get out of bed.Say each affirmation five times after you go to bed, so it is the last thing you think of before sleep.Say each affirmation five times throughout the day when you feel your motivation flagging.

When saying affirmations relax, close your eyes, become as relaxed as possible.Remove all negative thoughts from your mind.When making up your own affirmations, always phrase them in the positive (no negative words such as nothing, no, not, etc.)Always begin your affirmations with your own name (I, ______).Over the next few days, repeat the words I can, I am, I will dozens of times so they become an automatic response to any situation, objective, or experience in your life. Affirmations are expressions that have the power to transform your life by influencing the way you think about yourself, others, and the world around you. When you change how you think, you change how you act, and the results can be immensely rewarding.

[brice1967]

I'd suggest that you keep all "problems" separate.  The management position is its own deal, the new guy your talking to is another separate deal and the dream about the old guy is yet another separate deal.  Now you have to deal with each on of them on an individual basis.

I get the stress about the management position.  It sounds brand new and anything new is stressful.  But, your mom has great faith in you and thinks you can handle the position, so let that sink in and do the best you can.  Learn all you can and take it from there.

The new guy... stress from a previous relationship needs to stay with that previous relationship.  For whatever the reason, an ex is an ex for a reason so it's safe to leave all of that baggage there.  The ex doesn't deserve your time and the new guy does.  

The old guy... He broke up with you.... he's got no right to try to come back and kissing you...?  Really?  Tell his butt to step off.  He dumped you and you've moved on to far better things.  Tell him to stay away.  Don't pay him any more attention.  Its over and HE made that call.  Make him stick to it.  Period.... end of the conversation.