After childbirth

[msmunekagpa]

Hey mamas how do you guys keep the romance between u & ur partner me & hubby during pregnancy didnt have sex & well we finally i did after my baby turn 3 months now turning 4 but feel like the romance might be kinda gonne any suggestions

[specialmom]

Congrats on the baby.  I hear what you are saying and have lived it!  Once baby arrives, it's very consuming.  I had a hard time switching from mommy to wife.  Hard to feel sexy when you have spit up on your sweat pants and a baby in your arms most hours of the day.  So, occasionally doing something for yourself helps.  Do your nails, get your hair done, exercise, spruce yourself up, etc.  that always made me feel a bit more 'in the mood' to be wife rather than mom.  It's awesome if you can go on dates . . .  that was hard for me.  We didn't have a lot of people to watch our babies and it was hard to find sitters I trusted.  But I tried to make it happen every month.  Then when we went out, I kept everything light.  I didn't talk about problems or stressful things and didn't talk on and on about the baby.  :>)  We had dates at home too----  I'd put kids to bed and then light a candle and have our date right in our living room.  So, just make some effort with this stuff and it pays off.

I agree, in other words, with clement4now's idea of having a laugh together.  

good luck

[msmunekagpa]

Thank u i honestly dont know how to be sexy anymore since i feel lowself asleep since my body dont look as hot as it used to but working on it thank u ladies i feel theres hope

[clement4now]

Hi,
Definitely time alone together! By my second child, I finally enlisted some help from family members and a close friend as a nighttime sitter for my children, so that my husband and I could go do things together without the kids. Not only is sex important, but sharing a few laughs together and just having some carefree fun again, can help ignite the spark! If you can find someone who is trustworthy, dependable, and responsible to leave your child with, then I highly recommend having them over to sit for a few hours. Time alone w/each other is so important and precious for any marriage, that's it worth spending a few $$ for. Go have fun!! :)