At first we "love" "at first sight", then as we start to get to know someone, we define our relationship and what our expectations from the other person are. Then, we create a lifestyle together, and then we decide what type of love we have and whether we want that type of love continue. Because "love" is a very complex relationship, and has the tendency to be very emotional for both parties, and we need to give it our full respect and the time that is required for love to reach it's maturity....so be patient.
You admitted you played a game of wanting to make him jealous, he got jealous, it worked out, he cares about you and wants you as his love.......
he's immature, probably because of lack of experience....
he may have had a bad relationship, he may get over his trust issues , or he may make his next partner pay for his pain, we don't know that yet though....
he may have many deep seated problems, you don't know that yet because you're not that close, so again, run, or be patient and be fully informed about the person before you make any decisions........
this type of problem solving is part of life, at home, at work, anywhere. As complex human beings, we need to take things slow always and fully understand what really going on with ourselves and with other people before we make any rash decisions, always be in control of what's happening to you by always thinking a situation through fully.........
Relationships do not have to be hard and should start off healthy if possible. This man already shows you he has issues with trust, no matter how hard you try to show him you are a faithful woman it will not change his past thoughts. People that have trust issues has to learn to know they are worth loving it comes from within through Christ Jesus. When you know you are loved by God then you can love others until then you will always feel unloved and alone. Those who feel unloved will continue to hurt others while learning to receive love from God because God is Love and is the only way we can learn how to Love others is through Him.
I see this the same as SpecialMom and Londres. He's controlling and manipulating - and not even a BoyFriend? but You "love" Him?
When He feels more "ownership" in the relationship, He will be MORE demanding - not less.
Your last sentence: "He isn't the type to reason with" pretty much says it all. Are You prepared to go through a lifetime with SomeOne of this mind set?? Jealousy will not be Your ONLY issue down the road - there will be others and as You said, "He isn't the type to reason with".
You sound very Young. Give YourSelf time to know more people.....then make a better "choice" in a partner. We do have CHOICE - we are NOT bound to "love" SomeOne who is not a good Relationship for Us and Our Future Happiness. His Future Happiness is at stake as well - He's not "happy" being jealous and suspicious - He should have therapy to work on His insecurities.
He is controlling/manipulating. Don't confuse "control" with "love." RED FLAG.
He has anger management issues.......another RED FLAG.
"ive tried so hard with him!! I cant leave him because i love him and he isnt the type to reason with. What should i do???"...............Well, how to expect to have a relationship with a guy who you can't even reason with? Another RED FLAG. BTW: You can LEAVE him if you want that.
He is doing all this and he ISN'T even your bf OR wanting to be your bf? Why is that?
If you don't mind manipulation and control then go for it; pine after him. You will figure out in time you are making a terrible mistake.
Think long and hard about what you are doing here.
Totally agree with SM.
Again, as I stated in the other post, you need to understand that this is not a healthy or mature kind of guy. He's using his giving the cold shoulder to you to manipulate you into doing what he wants. this doesn't get better but worse over time as you aren't even in a relationship with him yet. This does not mean he cares about you--- it means he wants to control you and this almost always ends very badly. Steer clear of a guy like this. Even if it is hard and you feel you like him, you will thank me later if you take my advice. good luck