I really need help

[kayla1234500]

Ive been with my boyfriend for only three months. we met when i was on winter break from college and we spent every single day together, at first he was perfect and i instantly fell in love with him, ive never felt this way about a guy before. Then it came time for me to head back to college and then he started to not trust me. I have no idea why, i always answered my phone and i talked to him as much as i could. I even come home every single weekend which is a three hour drive to see him! i really try my best to make sure he can trust me. Ive never cheated and i dont talk to anymore guys because he told me i couldnt. He always threatens to break up with me for stupid reasons and i always cry and beg for him back. He does it all the time now and i am sick of it, i can hardly concentrate on school because instead of studying i am crying i even miss class sometimes because he treats me like complete ****. then he appologizes later and says he doesnt want to loose me.His reason for acting like this is because he said he doesnt trust pretty girls and i am up at college and he doesnt know what i do. Hes making me have very low self esteem. I think he gets the pleasure of me begging for him back and thats why he trys to break up with me. On the weekends he fights with me over the stupidest stuff, such as if a guy friend texts me and says hi. I am really sick of it but i dont want to loose him and i dont know why, he treats me like crap and i know i deserve better. i just dont know what i should do.....

[Vance2335]

Only advice I have is to dump the guy. He may have some self-esteem issues but he is also very controlling and I think the controlling is going to get worse and worse as time goes on.
He is not going to change and he will never trust you no matter what he says. You are in school for an education and it may hurt not to be with this guy, but it is hurting you more by being with him.

[PromisedLand]

agree with Vance....and I fear his mistrust and controlling you growing into something worse...I think it's a good time to dump this guy...you might not believe it now but it might save your life at worse, or serious personal injury.

These guys don't change as Vance said..

please keep us posted.

Jim

[teko]

This is a toxic relationship and you should move on before it ruins your emotional stability. You are now finding out who he really is. Move on for your own good.

[specialmom]

I completely agree with the guys here.  His behavior will get worse over time.  You are at an age anyway in which relationships are suppose to be fun-------  if you fight every time you see him---------  why see him?  good luck

[kayla1234500]

New update!!! So since my last post we have been fine except for a few little incidents. But today his bipolarness kicked in! He flipped out on me because i didnt call him right when i got home from college, when i called him when i got off the highway and he never told me i needed to call when i pulled in my drive way. SO he argued with me and i told him to calm down. He started swearing and totally blew it out of porportion and told me he wanted to break up for sure. so i cryed and carried on  and begged like i always do then i stopped and realized i dont need him and started to really hate him. He stopped by my house to tell me that his phone broke and if i was trying to get a hold of him i would have to wait until he got back from best buy. He then called me and said he was sorry i told him this is the last time he was to ever do this to me and i am started to loose feelings for him because he hurts me so much. Should i even give him a last chance?

[teko]

Nope, sounds like a good time to move on.

[specialmom]

I agree.  This is not the guy for you------- move on!!  good luck