Hey,
I'm a young women who decided to give the dating live a chance. 8 months ago I met this amazing guy at a big festival. It was love at first side, I was really into him and he was really into me. We started to chat a little and after that we started flirting with each other. On New Years Eve we finally kissed each other and admitted our love for each other. This was my very first relationship and I was still a virgin and so was he. Looking at it I was pretty happy because I felt less embarrassed. My very first sex experience wasn't something to call amazing, we had some fun but that was it.
We are now 8 months together, and my boyfriend started to tell me he wasn't sexual attracted to me. He is to other girls but not to me. At first he said it only once and private (but we still tried to have sex), but now he is saying it on a regular basic and something even if there are people around (and every time we try to have sex, he stops in the middle of foreplay and goes on his phone). He always uses the same excuses: "Sweetie I just don't feel sexual attracted to you, but that isn't important. The fact that I love you is important." I tried several times to talk with him about it but it always ends up embarrassing me or getting me down. I feel like he pushes the blame on me, but every time I ask him what it is that I'm doing wrong, he just says it is his fault.
I really love my boyfriend but I'm kind of worried. It's like he isn't worried about it at all, and he doesn't feel the need to look for a solution. It's like he can just live with it and he hopes that I can do that too ( easier said than done ). Also the fact that he gets sexual attracted to other women but not to me, made me worried a lot. I'm far from perfect, but I'm not ugly either. I'm normal and that something good ( i guess ). But yeah, and every time I ask him what do you find more attractive in those girls. (maybe I could find the solution there). He gives me the same answer, every time, " You are way prettier and sexier than those girls. On the in- and outside.
I really don't know what to do, I feel like he is scared of hurting my feelings. But this is even worse. It's awful because you feel helpless, you don't know what to do to fix the problem, you don't know if you are the cause or if he has a problem, you want to have sex but once in bed he says the damn hurtful things over and over again (and he doesn't realise it). I really need advise !! I'm really hopeless right now, I don't want to break up because of this. But I can't go further than this :(