HELP ME PLEASE

[Sabri1700]

So today my bf asked me for a 3 sum we've been dating for almost a year now and the sex is really good but him asking me for a 3 sum threw me off a little. Should I stay mad or should I like ask him why he feels that way?? Idk what to think or how to act..

[Nighthawk61]

I'm glad that you posted this question. I hope that you feel much more secure having heard the general consensus ; that it is a somewhat normal fantasy for men especially in this high porn age.; and that not all fantasies need to be considered ; Anything you are uncomfortable with is a no. and once you've said no, you should not be bugged about it again.

I love the stats that Life has given to you. Something all young people need to consider before dating.

If you're under 25, i suggest that you and your partner get the vaccine for HPV Warts and if there is one for HSV1 and 2. VERY IMPORTANT as the hpv caused cancer (in some strains)...

[Lee_1989]

I agree that you have to ask yourself if that's something you want to do (although it sounds like you were offended, so my guess would be that you don't want to). This is something that is fairly common for men to desire (we can thank the porn industry for that one), but not all men will have the balls to ask for it. And just because he asked for it, doesn't mean it's going to be a deal breaker for him if you say no. I agree with asking him about a threesome involving you and another man, because that is literally asking him for the equivalent of what he's asking you for. If he doesn't like that idea, then tell him that his request made you feel that exact same way. Just remember that you're entitled to feel however you feel about this. And that's that. You don't have to do anything you don't want to. And if this IS a deal breaker for him, you're better off without him.

[Life360_Dave]

A study has shown that the Sexually Transmitted Disease risk is higher with swingers than with prostitutes.
Even with the use of condoms the risk for contracting genital herpes is still very possible as shedding (meaning the virus is on the surface without any visible sores) up to 30% of the time with HSV2 and also HSV1 can be passed to the vaginal area from oral sex.

Syphilis can also be passed even when using a condom as well as HPV warts.

[Londres70]

Of course you don't know what to say or how to act because rational people don't ask these kinds of questions.

"Should I stay mad or should I like ask him why he feels that way??"...................Well, you can be mad and ask him why in the world does he want this and why is he asking now.  

He might just be trying to push the boundaries with you and wants to see how much he can get away with, nevertheless, he is NO gentleman.

Consider this a RED flag.

[Londres70]

You don't know what to think or how to act because rational people just don't ask these sorts of things.  

"Should I stay mad or should I like ask him why he feels that way??"...............I would stay mad AND ask him why is asking for this now or better yet why is asking this AT ALL.

[Sabri1700]

Thank you this was the best way.

[AnnieBrooke]

Agree.  If YOU don't want to, you don't have to, and that is the long and short of it about anything sexual.

I assume when he asked for a threesome, he was thinking that he would get to be with you and some other woman, rather than you being in bed with him and some other man you find attractive, am I right?  Ask him how he would feel if you wanted to have sex with him and another man at the same time.  This might sit him up on his hind legs and let him see how it feels to get this request.

[specialmom]

Ya know, it's fine to say no.  It's fine for him to have fantasies, most men do--  but that doesn't mean you have to act them out for him.  Unless you are interested, just tell him to keep it in his fantasies.  But that you aren't interested in being objectified like that and really don't want to be with anyone but him --  man or woman.  good luck