Do you not feel a nagging in the pit of your stomach that you shouldn't do it? I think that if you felt like it was the right thing to do, you would not have to ask.
It is not wrong to not fix this for him. It might cause more problems for you, that you didn't have to start with. It does not mean you don't care about someone if we don't jump in and rescue them. It just means you know your limitations. And really, if this is that important to him, the letter needs to come from him and his heart.
As to the letter doing more harm than good, there's no way to know, it all depends on your friends sister and how she reacts to it. That's a chance he'd have to take if he wants to send the letter.
I would really, really like to help my friend but, not get too involved.
I would probably help him construct the letter if he wants the help however.
Would sending that letter do more harm or good? He only wants to see his nephews & have his parents see their grandkids....that's it...
I think jo gave very wise advice. As much as we want we can not solve everyones problems. If we could, we could solve our own, and sometimes we can't even do that.
It is not our job to fix everything. Sure it hurts to see our friends hurting, but when we get involved in family issues, it usually does backfire.
Sometimes the only thing we can do, and in all actuality, the best thing we can do is to turn it over to the Lord, and leave it with Him.
We can listen, and sometimes that all people actually want, is someone to listen, not fix, just listen.
If you are a good friend and not a realitive, it might be wise to listen, but give no advice, because it could backfire, i would stay out of it luck jo
Ok let me clarify, so the 2 children who are not the kids of her husband are the ones that the grandparents want to see? Or is it her parents(your friend's sister's) who want to see the grandkids and she won't let them?
If it is the first(i.e the kids father's parents) being able to see their supposed grandchildren, they can have the childrens supposed father court order a dna test to see if the child is his.(i believe, you may want to check with the state and everything) then he would have to take your friends sister to court to get visitation rights, I'm not sure if the grandparents can do this or not on their own.
If it is your friend's sister's parents, I really don't think there is anything they can do as she is their mom and i believe she does have a right(legally) to not allow certain people to see them(regardless of her selfish reasons)
I don't know about the restraining order, I believe the only way it could be lifted is if she lifted it. He could always try and write her a letter, apologizing for whatever he did to warrant the restraining order and ask her to let the past be past and try and patch up the relationship, but who knows how she will react. They both could take a chance and hope she has matured and will want her family around again.
Sorry i'm, not much help here, a letter can't hurt, but it all depends on this woman and if she uses her kids as pawns I don't think the outcome will be what your friend and his family wants.