Single mom need good wise advice please help!

[DarinaP]

I am 6 month pregnant and still worried and sad. My boyfriend left me when i was 4 weeks pregnant. I know he went through hard times drinking a lot, even tried to sleep with my friend worrying about having a child because he is Muslim and Turkish and it's not acceptable in his culture to have a child without marriage. But he does not want to marry me because I am not Muslim and not turkish, he is worried that his parents will know about the child and that if he finds a women he loves ( he is looking for a Turkish women) she would refuse to be with him because of the child, so he told me to be quite and not tell anything to his parents or anybody about the child. I do want to tell his parents though because I think it's not fair to them, I was thinking to wait till the child will be born and tell them or when is the best time to tell them please give me an advice?  Also I don't what he wants , he does not want to date me but he comes for sex saying that he feels good with me and he is also talking to this Turkish girl, trying to find the right women , I feel very sad I don't know why I wasn't the right women for him. I don't care if he sleeps around, but I do care if he falls in love and marries another women because I think its not fair. I know I have to let him go but its so hard and its so hard to keep a child as a secret.

[imanelena]

Im muslim and i can tell you for sure this guy is really very bad. He acted very bad with you  and i have doubts if he.s really so faithful  as he tried to tell you.  According to our religion muslim man can marry christian woman. If he really loves you he can do this  he just doesnt want as i can see. My advice is to forget about him at all . And dont let this man into your life anymore. You will have a child and you will see you will be happy. Try  dont think about this guy he s not your man. You will meet someone  just be patient.

[expecting6thbaby]

Don't tell anybody the one who posted about your baby and your safety is right. Some people don't understand but I heard of women in your situation being killed while pregnant to protect the guys religion and right to live still in their religion.  I have even heard of them killing women related to them that got pregnant out of shame.   I am not against any ones religion and my comment was not made toward those religions.  It is toward the type of people that would do those things and from the way you said he acted they might be that type of people. Just be happy with your baby don't take the chance of someone taking the baby out of country where you have no rights... over seas in those places he would have all the rights and you have no rights.... and dint takevthe chance that they would hurt you or baby or both... good luck only you will know what the right thing for you and your baby is...

[tabs4life]

U shudnt wait to tell his parents. They may want nothing To do with the baby and its bettr to find out now so u dnt keep stressing about it.  Or maybe they will help u out and u won't have to worry so much about the father.  Hopefully they all will come around.  Do what u think is best and not whag be wants bcuz he is making horrible decisionsa and u should not be in agreement with a man who is clearly selfish.

[babyscarletstewart]

I think you should take hour baby and move on.. stop seeing him and cut off all contact. It will be better for you and your child. You don't want your child raised by someone like that. Think of the future and how he or she could possibly turn out. F that!! You font need hos support either. Be strong, be independent and for god sakes be mindful of what you are doing. There is an amazing man out there for you and your child!#

[Huni_b]

I think u shud speak with his parents. preferably when he's not around. that way they might at least hear you out and confront him later.
they might even make him cancel his plans with the other woman and deal with you first.
at least you'll have a chance at getting child support and/or grandparents in the baby's life.
worst case scenario they'll tell u to leave and want nothing to do with u, but thats not much different from how it is now. just that they'll know the truth about what a phony their son is.
but first and foremost take care of yourself and your baby. you'll be a wonderful mom, and much better off without that worthless guy in ur life.

[jamie2464]

Sweety his using u for sex he dont want his parents to no that his having sex and is going to b a dad u really think his going to sighn any papers??? His imbarrest to show u off and his putting lame excuses of not wanting u...really Turkish and Muslim? ?? If he loved u or wanted anything to do with the baby he could of married u in to the  religion. I personally would go to his parents and let them no hey am p.g with ur sons baby and ur son is not that innocent either theyll either support u or not u told them.obviously his living a  triple life 1 of being a fake Muslim 2. Using u and getting ur hopes up 3. He cheats on u With a Turkish women.sweety he is no good.do u have ur family to help u and support u??? What are u so afraid of that u would actually listen to a man who obviously is a shame of u and ur baby....theirs muslims that are white.black .Hispanic. all cultures. Its better of if u put ur fpot down and b a b.***** ull c that his going to b afraid of u if u tell on him. I can read that u love him and u want a perfect family but from what u wrpte he doesn't. I no u dont want to do this alone...find some friends b active  with ur famipy or just anybody who cqn help u and hear ur problems. U shouldnt have to b stuck or scared of him do u no how he just put the power in ur hands to distroy his life.think about his family ...religion...his new girl friend...childsupport.. u getting full custody...am not saying that pay bqck is a b#### but from u being hurt while p.g I think its ur turn to do it to him...but thats just me...just think about sorry for the rant but I do feel for u and what ur going threw...