Single mom need good wise advice please help!

[DarinaP]

I am 6 month pregnant and still worried and sad. My boyfriend left me when i was 4 weeks pregnant. I know he went through hard times drinking a lot, even tried to sleep with my friend worrying about having a child because he is Muslim and Turkish and it's not acceptable in his culture to have a child without marriage. But he does not want to marry me because I am not Muslim and not turkish, he is worried that his parents will know about the child and that if he finds a women he loves ( he is looking for a Turkish women) she would refuse to be with him because of the child, so he told me to be quite and not tell anything to his parents or anybody about the child. I do want to tell his parents though because I think it's not fair to them, I was thinking to wait till the child will be born and tell them or when is the best time to tell them please give me an advice?  Also I don't what he wants , he does not want to date me but he comes for sex saying that he feels good with me and he is also talking to this Turkish girl, trying to find the right women , I feel very sad I don't know why I wasn't the right women for him. I don't care if he sleeps around, but I do care if he falls in love and marries another women because I think its not fair. I know I have to let him go but its so hard and its so hard to keep a child as a secret.

[GeekMom1213]

His relationship is his business and not yours. If he chooses to tell her that is his decision to make. He has legal obligations for child support that you shouldn't let him off the hook for but you telling the woman he is involved with about the pregnancy is way out of line.

[DarinaP]

Yesterday I've been told thaT he fOund a Turkish girl to marry and he is serious about her. I feel so sad.  And she doesn't know about the baby.  Should I tell her or just let it go and wait till he tells her.

[DarinaP]

Thank you for the advice, and thanks for praying for me.

[Tashas1st]

I really dont want to come off as rude, and i really do feel for you, but come on hon... its quite obvious hes no good for you.
I dont think you should keep your child a secret for his sake. Do what is best for YOU and most importantly your child, no matter the effects it will have on his life.

[CutieMommy2be]

hun, im going to be brutally honest with you because I think you need a firm kick  in the booty! First off the guy is a dog and is just using you for sex! YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT AND DESERVE BETTER FOR YOU AND BABY. Secondly, if he wanted to marry a turkish girl he should have only slept/date with turkish women! I would not be obeying his commands and hiding the baby from ANYONE!  What he is doing to you is simply WRONG! Hun, you need to ring your ***** bell and no longer allow that jerk to stomp and use you anymore. Im not trying to be mean, and I know it hurts however you sooo deserve better!! Time will heal and im hoping eventually you meet someone who will treat you and your baby with the love and respect you deserve! further, having sex and hiding your child will not make him love you. Its not you, Its him!! He is a dog plain and simple. Sorry to be honest but I hate to lie to people or sugar coat the truth when the truth is so crucial at this point. I will pray for you and the baby and I wish you the best of luck.  Btw, id tell everyone now. If they want to be apart of the child's life and they are normal people.. dont deny your child grandparents, at least you opened the door and if not its their loss. Also..you will need support for that baby..its never easy raising a baby alone.  

[CutieMommy2be]

hun, im going to be brutally honest with you because I think you need a firm kick  in the booty! First off the guy is a dog and is just using you for sex! YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT AND DESERVE BETTER FOR YOU AND BABY. Secondly, if he wanted to marry a turkish girl he should have only slept/date with turkish women! I would not be obeying his commands and hiding the baby from ANYONE!  What he is doing to you is simply WRONG! Hun, you need to ring your ***** bell and no longer allow that jerk to stomp and use you anymore. Im not trying to be mean, and I know it hurts however you sooo deserve better!! Time will heal and im hoping eventually you meet someone who will treat you and your baby with the love and respect you deserve! further, having sex and hiding your child will not make him love you. Its not you, Its him!! He is a dog plain and simple. Sorry to be honest but I hate to lie to people or sugar coat the truth when the truth is so crucial at this point. I will pray for you and the baby and I wish you the best of luck.  Btw, id tell everyone now. If they want to be apart of the child's life and they are normal people.. dont deny your child grandparents, at least you opened the door and if not its their loss. Also..you will need support for that baby..its never easy raising a baby alone.