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Plz I Need Help ! :(
Hello , everyone I'm 19 years old . I have 2 things to talk about ... first thing is a question .
My question is , If someone was bisexual or gay , was he born like this I mean was he born gay or bisexual ,, is it somthing from god , or is it somethnig psycological ?
Second thing is , I'm in a critical situation which is , my penis dosen't dosen't go up as I imagine a femal's body , But it does when imagining male's body . but during masturbating , I have this desire for both female and male . But a week ago , I was with a gurl and she was actually (Fat) but I don't mean any offense for fat people .. anyway , we were kising but my penis didn't go up and I didn't have the desire to continue kissing . I'm so upset about this thing I don't wanna be like this I want te be changed . That thing with the gurl was my first time hooking with a girl , and i actually had sex with a guy since I was 13 .. so can u people help :( ... i want to live normal life .
My question is , If someone was bisexual or gay , was he born like this I mean was he born gay or bisexual ,, is it somthing from god , or is it somethnig psycological ?
Second thing is , I'm in a critical situation which is , my penis dosen't dosen't go up as I imagine a femal's body , But it does when imagining male's body . but during masturbating , I have this desire for both female and male . But a week ago , I was with a gurl and she was actually (Fat) but I don't mean any offense for fat people .. anyway , we were kising but my penis didn't go up and I didn't have the desire to continue kissing . I'm so upset about this thing I don't wanna be like this I want te be changed . That thing with the gurl was my first time hooking with a girl , and i actually had sex with a guy since I was 13 .. so can u people help :( ... i want to live normal life .
All people, if it was pleasant feel a bond or affection toward there first.
I think you, at the moment would be well of doing some things where you are around more women that you can know as people not just as objects of desire.
Actually one rather humorous book that might give you some food for thought is Robyn Skynner's "Families and how to survive them"
I think you, at the moment would be well of doing some things where you are around more women that you can know as people not just as objects of desire.
Actually one rather humorous book that might give you some food for thought is Robyn Skynner's "Families and how to survive them"
you are young yet and dont get to worried take it easy awhile hang out with the crowd and start dating some you dont have to have sex with evry female you meet get acuainted know people in time you will know where your sexuality lies i do relize that with you religion is a issue dont beat your self to death try dating differnt girls and go from there i do not wanr any one thinking i am making a crude remark but i was reading a book about this person and he said and i quote when i was young it was hard to control my lower extremities when i met a pretty girl my lower part would want to stand up straight and say howdy i do not know about young men i raised girls but i think whatever you decide be comfortable with it you are young and have plenty of time may god bless you as to seriou sams ans it does make a lot of sense i have 3 half brothers that are gay and there was no male role model for them the mother was the dominator she ruled the roost so to speak and their dad was afraid to add to anything it is sad to say but they did not respect him but he should have demanded respect instead of cowering down lots of luck jo
hey , I agree with scot 100% , and thax sam for ur research. I actually I don't want to be the way I am right now.I want to be fixed I want to find a way to be fixed , I wanna get married have kids . My probelm is as I have said before is when I imagine a female's body is just my penis dosen't boon ( not sure of spelling ) . But , 4 years ago I was with a gurl we hadn't have sex , she was teasing me and stuff and I was pleasured . SO , nowdays it's just remembering the things she used to do , I get the desire of having the sex with her only ( I don't know why her only ) . By the way , my religion forbiddens being a gay , so I'm really depressed from the status i'm in .. so can u guyz help and tell me how to fix myself !
hey , I agree with scot 100% , and thax sam for ur research. I actually I don't want to be the way I am right now.I want to be fixed I want to find a way to be fixed , I wanna get married have kids . My probelm is as I have said before is when I imagine a female's body is just my penis dosen't boon ( not sure of spelling ) . But , 4 years ago I was with a gurl we hadn't have sex , she was teasing me and stuff and I was pleasured . SO , nowdays it's just remembering the things she used to do , I get the desire of having the sex with her only ( I don't know why her only ) . By the way , my religion forbiddens being a gay , so I'm really depressed from the status i'm in .. so can u guyz help and tell me how to fix myself !
I'm Taoist. your not offending me. LOL
I think ilmuse just meant he should he resign himself t something that he is not necessarily comfortable with.
Personally I think he should just learn to be himself and take it slow. Fantasy is one thing reality another.
Actually I have met few gay men who were entirely at ease with themselves and find it notable that almost all of the greatest suicide/shock troops of history were military units composed largely of gay men.
Just a thought.
I think ilmuse just meant he should he resign himself t something that he is not necessarily comfortable with.
Personally I think he should just learn to be himself and take it slow. Fantasy is one thing reality another.
Actually I have met few gay men who were entirely at ease with themselves and find it notable that almost all of the greatest suicide/shock troops of history were military units composed largely of gay men.
Just a thought.
Your research makes allot of sense . I hope I didn't come off to judgmental . I am not saying that , no way can genetics have a role in choice to be gay . It can effect other behaviors and diseases . I just don't think people should blame God for every bad thing that happens .
Gay or bi? Several schools of thoughts. These primarily apply to guys only.
1) Environmental-in animals when the sex ratio becomes too skewed homosexual behavior increases.
2)Parental-Males who at a earlier age have failed to "connect" with the father are more likely to be gay or to experiment in the female sexual role. This more common where a strong domineering female parental figure exists, or in single parent households where the mother has intentionally severed male role model connections, or paraded men through the childs life.
3) Genetic- much rarer though the geneticists do think that they have found a genetic tag in some humans that might indicate cross wiring.
1) Environmental-in animals when the sex ratio becomes too skewed homosexual behavior increases.
2)Parental-Males who at a earlier age have failed to "connect" with the father are more likely to be gay or to experiment in the female sexual role. This more common where a strong domineering female parental figure exists, or in single parent households where the mother has intentionally severed male role model connections, or paraded men through the childs life.
3) Genetic- much rarer though the geneticists do think that they have found a genetic tag in some humans that might indicate cross wiring.
" I'm so upset about this thing I don't wanna be like this I want to be changed ."
" , is it something from God ? "
I have to disagree . God doesn't give us a sinful nature .
You hear of kids , never having met their father , grow up with the same anger issues .Allot of us guys have thoughts and fantasies that we don't talk about , but we " choose " not to act on .I came from a ling line of heavy drinkers , but 17 years ago I made a choice to stop drinking . Good luck with your choice .
" , is it something from God ? "
I have to disagree . God doesn't give us a sinful nature .
You hear of kids , never having met their father , grow up with the same anger issues .Allot of us guys have thoughts and fantasies that we don't talk about , but we " choose " not to act on .I came from a ling line of heavy drinkers , but 17 years ago I made a choice to stop drinking . Good luck with your choice .
im with rebecca on this , you are born that way ! do what makes you happy and enjoy it as you are what you are and you cant choose who you fall in love with . im a fat girl and i ake no offence at all , i just think you need to accept that ur are gay ,find a great guy and be happy . a normal life? what is normal ? life is what you make it and you decide what is normal for you !
i think that people r born like this. i dont think people wake up one day and say ok today is the day i am going to be gay or bi. i dont have a problem with it, its ur life and if it makes u happy being with a man and women or at the same time go for it!!! and maybe ur just not into big girls, some r and some r not. i wish u the best. and no matter what anyone may say go with what makes U happy, who cares what other people think!!!!!!
best wishes!!!!!!!!
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