Did she orgasm?

[Utility]

A few months ago, I met a beautiful girl and we started dating sporadically. We started seeing eachother more frequently until she got comfortable with me and confessed she was on meds because she had panic attacks following a street rape that occurred a little over a year ago.
Anyways, we would see eachother about twice a week and we would often go eating out and drinking. When she would come over, the most we would do is sneak in brief kisses and hold hands. She never showed any sexual interest after 3 months of "going out".
Usually, in my past sexual experiences, sex would just happen naturally but with this girl, there was never any talk or obvious interest about it which led me to ask for it. She replied by saying that she is yet to be comfortable with me and that she isn't ready. A few weeks later, when I insisted, she said that the rape has affected her desires and that she has to totally trust me before we have intercourse. Afterwards, she said that the past 2 guys that had sex with her (after the rape) never called back and she doesn't want that to happen again.
I was as patient as I could but to me, sex, while not the primary aspect of a relationship, is very important to me.
A few weeks and rejections later, I finally made the decision that I couldn't handle a sexless relationship (there were other issues as well). I told her that I'd rather be single for the moment and stopped returning her calls and texts. A month later, she texted me on a Saturday and suggested that we go out and have fun. I relented and agreed to go out. We went out to a restaurant, then to a bar and ended up at my house where we had sex for the 1st time. I was adamant (to myself) that it was pity sex so she can keep me close and so I wouldn't walk out on her again. We had sex a few times afterwards and while I find her very attractive and thoroughly enjoyed it, she didn't seem to get into it (she was never vocal at all). I approached her by telling her that I perceive her to be sexually indifferent especially considering the girl I dated before her was very vocal and I definitely knew when she orgasmed.
One other interesting theory was we would mostly have sex when I am upset or when I am mad at her. In my opinion, sex became her tool to please me and make me less grouchy but I had concerns about her desire for me and/or for sex in general especially in light of her rape.
Today, same story, I was very upset because she texted her ex in front of me. She calmed me down, made me food and we had sex. Only this time, it definitely was different, she seemed alot more responsive, vocal (called me baby several times) and definitely more moist.
After the intercourse, she left a big wet spot on the sheet, which lead to my question: does a wet spot coming from a woman following intercourse necessarily mean she orgasmed?
Thanks.

[kirsteng266]

i have to agree with Pirespike regarding the wet spot. it can happen with out orgasim.

All that worries me is her mental state, a female that uses sex to keep a man that she is even herself not sure she wants, is asking for trouble. She obviously needs men in her life and know with sex, is the only way she can keep them. She needs them for other reason other than a relationship or companionship.

and the fact that she got turned on by her ex - is another thing you should be worried about.

it sounds like you are more worried about the level of pleasure you give her, and if you are cabale of giving her an organsim, the you are about the bigger picture.

[p123p456]

No, it doesn't mean she orgasmed. A woman can be very wet and leave a spot without orgasming. However, this is not what you should be worried about.

If sex is so important to you in a relationship, don't go out with a rape victim.