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i cheated on husband, scared to confess, dont know if to confess or not.
I have been married for 5 years and been together for 8 years. Things have always been up and down ans firat he was so sweet to me and with time he changed, with time ive felt like he doesnt reallt give me much attention, we are a good team we work hard enjoy eachothers company, is just that he is so cold at times , there is times he is ok and then he is not, he is not the firgiving type, he doesnt belive in second chances or theraphy.
I cheated on my husband a month ago , we had sex one time, to say i dont even remember what the sex felt like , i did not enjoy it at all , i regret what i did, it has been the biggest mistake ive ever made, i regret it abd i know forsure that is something that i would never do again and that is true, i'm scared to confess because i kbow i would lose him and i dont want to lose him i love him and im asshamed abd feel guilty for what i did, i dont want my marriage to end over my stupid mistake we are all human and make mistakes, i see my mistake and i have learned from it and like i said i wont do it again, the person i did it with will never tell so there is no way he would ever find out, only if i tell him and is what i ak trying to figure out, please i need help i need advice, confess or not?
I cheated on my husband a month ago , we had sex one time, to say i dont even remember what the sex felt like , i did not enjoy it at all , i regret what i did, it has been the biggest mistake ive ever made, i regret it abd i know forsure that is something that i would never do again and that is true, i'm scared to confess because i kbow i would lose him and i dont want to lose him i love him and im asshamed abd feel guilty for what i did, i dont want my marriage to end over my stupid mistake we are all human and make mistakes, i see my mistake and i have learned from it and like i said i wont do it again, the person i did it with will never tell so there is no way he would ever find out, only if i tell him and is what i ak trying to figure out, please i need help i need advice, confess or not?
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I agree with most of the above posters. Do not tell your husband. Forgive yourself and forget about it because you can't go back and changed what happened. Get in to therapy to help yourself.
I also cut contact with this person 100%, i told this person we cant talk anymore because i really want to fix my marriage, and he respected that
The person that it happened with i know from jr high, umm my hubby knows he is my friend but theve never me, i dont really see my friends. That person prmised me he would never say anything because he woukd not want me to be more hurt, he has na gf they are on and off he also felt ignored. So no he wont tell him or anyone , he is a army veteran he gave me a solduers promise. I hope with time i can feel better, i really want to give my marriage another shot i really want both of us to try, abd if one day it ends i dont want it to end because of this if it ends ine day let it end because we both know we tried but it didnt work
One thing about telling him. does he know this man and can he find out from a third party in the future?
Hi God, men dont want to know these things and most likley would never forgive you. Keep in mind there is a double standard as in some ways its more accepted if the man cheats but with the women it is a big no no. That being said, men are always being tempted to cheat, so in their minds cheating does exist. Just keep it to your self and maybe talk to the spiritual leader of your choice about your quilt.
In some ways he is at fault also
In some ways he is at fault also
Life, as a man would you rather not know, or why you think i should not say. Ive been a good wife to him, sypported him in everything, so has ge , the past two years some how we have lost the spark its been ok then we are distant, i pray for happines i pray for myself to overcome this big lesson. In my life, this has changed me and has made me see everything differently i want to be a better person, i better wife and learn how to forgive abd love myself
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In our marriage, there is a constant giving of oneself, constant sacrificing and compromising our individuality. We do this for love of another and also to grow old with the person and share all life till the good Lord calls us home.
This constant giving has moments of wanting our individually back and we are tempted, as with affairs, gambling, drugs and the list goes on.
Sometimes we fall and have deep regret but always remember that we are human and can only try and learn from our weakness. We all do it, all have sinned.
I would put this behind you and focus on your creative side. This obviously has had a great inpact on you and has opened up a new part in your thinking ability.
Take this new awareness and turn it into a positive. Try writing poetry, a book, some song lyrics and possibility turning it into a financial gain.
Maybe invent a product.
There are much bigger events going on than the things we get ourselves into.
I wrote the below called "being a better person"
"Just looking up into space and realizing
there are Stars, Black Hoes and Vastness,
also our Galaxy and even the Universe.
They say when we get to the edge of the
Universe our comprehension stops as the
concept of Infinity bangs heads with Self.
Whats up there dosent have to try. it just is.
We are no different but have been taught
otherwise."