Good evening,
I recently got engaged to my long term girlfriend whom I have met just after graduating from University. I am having second thoughts and wonder if they are normal considering mine (our) situation.
A little bit more about it. I am 30 studied engineering and have worked in a few places. Currently I decided to take some time away from employment to consider relocation and undertake further education and volunteering.
My girlfriend (fiancee), 29, is now a consultant in one of the leading hospitals of the country. Career wise she will personally have a great future ahead.
I have read a similar post and wanted to post my concerns that are causing me stress about the commitment in the same manner:
1 - Family relationships. We come from different backgrounds, countries and families. We now live in her country - where we met. We have always found the cultural differences hard to overcome and worked on that very much.
2 - Her brothers and sisters are very protective of her being the elderly and smartest in their family (her parents got divorced when she was a teenager). I feel when being with them like I cannot be the same guy like when we are alone or with other people - got told off for small things and undermined with subtle jokes every time I do not agree with her in something. Thing is we only spend time with her family once in a while and it has not been much of a deal right now.
3 - She is very likeable and have lots of friends. Which is great and the completely opposite to me - only a few friends and living abroad. Also my entire family lives abroad.
4 - I notice that sometimes people appreciate all the efforts we are making towards working out misunderstandings. I sense from her that sometimes she is not happy with certain things which we have not voiced. I am accommodating and feel that I have put up with a lot and think she has done also.
We don't have a date for the wedding yet, but the sole situation of being engaged is creating a deal of anxiety and wonder if I have done the right thing of going ahead with all this. I love her and care about her a lot, but these are the reasons of my doubts.
Do you have any similar experiences?