New year WOW. If you love him speak up and tell him this situtation isnt working tell him to leave his wife finalize a divorce obviously shes a cheater so use that in the divorce filings and do visitation for the son
Tell him to give you a call AFTER he sorts out his life. He is in NO position to be establishing a new relationship with you at this time.
His life is WAY too messy and dramatic at this time.
I think you should back away and let him be the kind of father he knows he can be, and wants to be.
I agree with those who said to back away. A child is owed this much. His parents should make every attempt to work it out and he doesn't need any distractions in that.
It is hard to not be selfish in these types of situations but it is in your best interest as well to step back. If they do not make it down the road---- you will not be the "other" woman. You can have an honest relationship that involves no drama. As it stands now, any relationship with this man would be very difficult.
So, do what is best for all concerned and take yourself out of the triangle completely. good luck
Sorry about what you are going through but don't shoot me. I have seen so many scenarios where a man is married or in a relationship and then things are on the rocks and he gets involved with another woman and then for some reason or the other he needs to go back to the previous one.
I am going to tell you to back off, you may get hurt actually there is a good chance. Just because she cheated doesn't mean he doesn't love her and married couples have gone past cheating before and still be married. Its more than just the fact that he needs to be living with her for his son I am worried about for you its the fact that you do not know what he is doing with her. He can tell you anything but it does not have to be the truth. You owe it to yourself not to be sneaking around and getting harassed by this woman. I would hate for him to come and say "umm Nicole I need to stay married to my wife for my son" even though it may very well be for himself too. And then you are all patient and get the bad end of the stick dear.
This woman is adamant that she will not just let go and I can't help but think that eventually he will give in, he married her so....
Take care of yourself dear I always tell people "If you cure your wound from early out, it will get better. But if you leave it open and have someone doing more harm to it, you will never heal." Back off now and save yourself some heartache, you broken heart from letting him go will heal in time. But keep him around while he's trying to "sort this through" may result in a greatly damaged heart.
Oh yes, in reading this again and your new post just a bit of time later-------- I do think you need to not date for a while. good luck