Are you in school at this time? Do you have other friends or activities?
BTW: Constant attention should NEVER be expected in a relationship regardless of whether it's long distance or not as that is not healthy.
Secondly, a lack of communication in a relationship should make you concerned but not "mad or upset." I wouldn't recommend anyone getting mad or upset but to work on the communication issues by just opening up and talking to the person you are having the issues with. It doesn't have to be some scripted chat, but it shouldn't be any anger-fueled nastiness being vented at someone.
if the lack of constant attention is expected in a LDR how do i know when to get mad or upset with the lack of communication
Well....just talk to her and set up specific times and days that are good to chat that you both can work with.
Can't you drive to see her? It is quite a distance though. Perhaps on the weekends she isn't home you can drive to see her. I am just throwing ideas out....not sure if they are doable though.
well unfortunately i have either set my self up for heartbreak since we have been together for over a year or i have set myself for a tough relationship atleast a tough relationship for right now. which it is very tough right now and i'm trying to figure out how to make it much easier on myself
I don't think some of the comments were meant to be negative or mean to you in any sense as most of us are much older than you and we have seen and know trends to certain situations, not to say yours will not work out as I can't predict the future to the exact.
Plus, I was in this situation years ago myself and I surely don't want to see you setting yourself up for heartbreak and hurt and I have a son who has gone through the same situation you are in too.