thank you for understanding my want to make my relationship work, instead of being negative. although it may seem to me like i am being put on the back burner she may be doing it unintentionally and not realizing the damage it causes. also you mentioned not always texting each other. i know it depends upon the relationship but what do u think would be an appropriate amount of space to start off with?
It is as simple as figuring out a schedule that is doable for you and her. Just tell her that you would like to chat with her more when she is away and that you just don't feel like that is happening now and she what she says.
Please keep in mind there are only so many hours in a day and she needs to have time for other things, i.e. school work, other friends, etc.
im trying to figure out how to tell her!
If you want to make it work, you need to sit and talk with her about how you're feeling. Tell her you understand her busy schedule but would like to set a day or two (and specific times) a week when you two can just talk on the phone or via Skype uninterrupted (or whatever number of times you think is reasonable). Because you have to realize she can't spend every moment texting you. It's not healthy to be that reliant on a person, and she needs other friends to figure her own self out just as you do. What matters is that she loves you and spends time with you when she has it. If she's not willing to come to a compromise on how to work this out, it won't last, but you do need to understand that she will be busy from here on out. Unless she hates the sorority after a semester, it's unlikely her duties and such will change.
how i feel about being put on the backburner? No. i am trying to pick my battles and the way i approach situations with her so that i do them with thought and actual meaning and not out of anger and or reaction. that would be why i posted this.