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Advice Please!!!!
Hi all, it's been a while since I've been here for advice but I find myself in need of some. Last night my boyfriend sprung the it's not you it's me thing on me. We just celebrated our 3 year anniversary on August 14. He was telling me he thinks we've fizzled out and he doesn't really care for sex anymore but he loves me very much and doesn't think he wants to break up. I am still head over heels in love with him and would do anything for him! I need to know how you guys keep things fresh or like you're still in that dating phase. He says we're in a pattern where he feels like we're married because he goes to work comes to my house watches a little TV and then goes to bed. We're both broke college students so money is tight and we can't do much right now. I don't feel like our relationship needs to end over this so I'm looking for any and all advice to spice things back up! Please please please help!
Maybe you have been taking him for granted, even if just emotionally, and if so it might be something you can change. But unfortunately, it seems often to be true that once one person in the relationship gets tired of it, it is in fact over, no matter what the other person tries. It's just not possible to make someone feel the honeymoon phase if he isn't feeling it any more. The more you put into it, the more frantic things can get and the more off balance you might feel, always insecure. If that's the case, it might be better to split up in a calm and dignified way, and then if he sees you around and you look happy, his interest might be rekindled.
Don`t forget to have fun with each other. Respect towards the other is a biggie!
Don`t be afraid to try new, and different things. Don`t forget that "the little things mean alot, or...just because...." Communication is a huge one!!!!! If something is bothering you, talk to them. Let them know how you feel. And don`t forget to tell them how beautiful they are, or how good they look, or smell. Treat them as they are your #1.
I'm also believe things you can do that don't cost money or very little money. Things like picnics, the beach, challenging him in a sports game, free concerts, bake for him, massages.. etc.
The key here is spending time together and watching tv together doesn't cut it. Do things that you both like doing together.
I hope this helped and I wish that things look up.. :D
Don`t be afraid to try new, and different things. Don`t forget that "the little things mean alot, or...just because...." Communication is a huge one!!!!! If something is bothering you, talk to them. Let them know how you feel. And don`t forget to tell them how beautiful they are, or how good they look, or smell. Treat them as they are your #1.
I'm also believe things you can do that don't cost money or very little money. Things like picnics, the beach, challenging him in a sports game, free concerts, bake for him, massages.. etc.
The key here is spending time together and watching tv together doesn't cut it. Do things that you both like doing together.
I hope this helped and I wish that things look up.. :D
daily routine can put a dampener on a relationship,try spicing it up by doing a romantic meal go for walks,dress sexy,you know the things you use to do before you both settled down,instead of having the tv on sit there together and talk and laugh about good old days
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