it's 242am my time and myself are having a steaming argument about this baby coming here ,,but you know what once she's brings the baby here I'm not coming home cause it's ********.. I don't think it's right.. her sister has her now thinking i don't care bout her family and that she is allowing me to treat her anyway.I don't give a damm now.. I just won't be here I will excuse myself from the situation .. its just ******** that you have people like this being a damm burden to people.. i work hard and i take care of my family why should i have her run me off my house .. its ******** but i can't deal with it...
Ugh, tony, this is tough stuff. Things just got complicated. Who would have predicted this?? What about ANY other family??? ugh, I just don't know how you're going to convince your wife that the baby can't come. I get it. I really do but circumstances are making this a situation in which it is sure hard to not do this. I would talk about a CLEAR exit plan. make it clear to your wife that there is a time frame in which baby and mama/the sil are gone. even if you have to go rent her a place yourself and move her things. BUT, that means you have all her kids now too and she'll need care when she gets out if this is a serious health set back.
I would call her mother, your mother in law, for advice. Maybe if you pay for the apartment, she an come out to help and stay with her and the kids in that apartment??
because of her damm irresponsible *** she is in that situation.. she has two kids at her mom and want to have one at my house... she is grown and I'm not going to show any sympathy to her.. she knew what the hell she was doing when she laid up with that man,,, and plus she knew the man didn't want a baby .. although i don't support it she should have had an abortion... I hate people who always wants to be the damm victim..... instead of bettering herself here she went and laid with a dam man that didn't want a baby . now she is saying ohh I tell you guys to leave him out of it.. How the hell are we suppose to leave him out of it when he is the one that got you pregnant you fool. i can't stand these foolish ladies now a days.....
so now my SIL had the baby last tuesday .Apparently it was at a teaching hospital and while having a c-section the doctor slightly cut her liver but because she signed a waver nothing can be done about that.She have been in the hospital for over a week now still bleeding . They are now saying the baby has to go home because he is heathy and can't stay in the hospital.. My wife is now telling me she is going to take a few days and bring the baby here because the social worker in threatening to put the baby with another family.. The stupid father of the child wants another lady friend of his to take care of the the baby and My SIL does not want that.. I really didn't want her or the baby to come to the house .. I told my wife no .. I don't want the baby here... why are we the ones to take the responsibility let the dammm father step up and take care of his child..I'm sol freaking pissed off.. I don't want to deal with anyone else baby period .. call me mean I don't give a dammm...
Yes, she could go stay with the baby's father for awhile. This is his baby and his responsibility, not yours. You've done so much for your sil already and she did not make any changes but only made things worse for herself and her children by getting pregnant again when she can afford another child.
I would question the shelter story too. If she has 3 children one being a newborn baby, I highly doubt they would make her wait 2 weeks to move in.
I wish your wide was behind you with all of this. I told you my husband and I have had several family members come stay with us. Always it was supposed to temporary and always it turned in to at least and year and sometimes even years. We felt sorry for them and tried our best to help but it caused so many problem for me and my husband. As long as they knew they had a place to stay and food in their stomach, which we paid for, they were content not to change their lives. We put our foot down and promised each other that no one will ever live with us again. We couldn't be happier with our decision. It's sad to know their our some people who are leaches.
Sorry for the long post. Stand your ground. I hope your wife will be on your side and see that you're only trying to do what's best for your family and also for your sil and her children.
so now my wife and myself are arguing because she just spoke to her sister and was told she has received an eviction notice . My SIL now is going to a shelter after she has the baby tommrw. The place will not be ready for another two week . My wife wanted her to come until it's ready . I am still saying NO .. I think this might be an attempt for her to keep saying the place is not ready and next thing you know she will be settled in at our house . I am so pissed of now. I want nothing to do with this.. Why can't she go to her baby fathers house for the two weeks..It's crazy.....