tacky..sort of

[love138]

I actually never did this but, i was thinking about it months ago..anyways there was this nice guy who fixed something in a relatives house.. anyway i was instantly attracted to him when i first saw him and wanted to say something to him but i felt insecure about it and didnt really say anything..fast forward i was thinking about calling his business card to try and ask him a question about something business related hoping it'll lead to something else but never did b/c i felt it would be sort of stalkerish and tacky..which it is. would it have been tacky? lol Thinking about it now I sort of regret not saying anything to him b/c he seemed like a decent guy with a good head on his shoulders. I believe he works in the area where this relative lives but theres a small to none chance that i would actually run into him again

[Londres70]

"fast forward i was thinking about calling his business card to try and ask him a question about something business related hoping it'll lead to something else but never did b/c i felt it would be sort of stalkerish and tacky..which it is. would it have been tacky?"..........Then you say "know...its very awkward at this point b/c i was seriously considering calling around that time  but i felt it was tacky."  If you thought it was tacky then there really is no point asking others about it.  

"dont do anything to attract these loser guys..they approach me..i dont approach them. I dont give them anything to feed off of. They just think im attractive or whatever and try to talk to me and play games.".......Well, then.....just don't play the game with them for one minute, one month or one year.  

All the best.  

[love138]

Im not talking to that other guy anymore I dont think that it was tacky to look him up  considering I knew the guy and we had conversations and i got to hang around him for awhile. I deleted his #. I felt like I needed complete closure in that situation thats why i did it. The thing with him is that he lead me on in a way and I didnt understand what his problem was..but i knew something was off with him even when we first met i just wasnt completely sure...now I have closure so that situation is over.

With this guy i dont know him..he doesnt know me..doesnt even know my name and i do think its tacky to call him because i didnt really talk to him I just said Hi to him..that its and he pretty much said hi to me and asked me how i was doing...that was it. I didnt have any conversation with him..

I dont do anything to attract these loser guys..they approach me..i dont approach them. I dont give them anything to feed off of. They just think im attractive or whatever and try to talk to me and play games

Im not sure on what im going to do..someone who commented said i should leave it alone b/c it was months ago and i agree with them as well

[Londres70]

I see some major concerns here:

"I do have a fear of rejection...also embarrassement...thats why I never approached him in the first place .".............Probably should work on this as this has to be resolved before you can proceed.  Definitely an obstacle.

Seems like you start thinking negative about the situation before it is even begon.......negative talk, i.e. he might be married or taken already, he might be a loser just like the ones I met before, he probably won't remember me (which you can't say he does or doesn't), he is too good-looking to be single, etc.  You do this until you've completely talked yourself out of taking the chance and have no more courage to proceed with the situation.  

In regards to the past "losers".......there is always a chance this will happen, however, if it seems like it is a pattern I would say you need to reevaluate what you are doing/saying to attract these men and most importantly are you seeing or receiving red flags from these men and aren't heeding to them.  For example, I just viewed your other post about a man you met in a class and outside of class you both only chatted via text.  Although this was a "red flag" you proceeded with the situation.  You even had someone checked out his FB for you after almost a year of pursuing when you should have left the situation completely alone.  It was clearly obvious he wasn't interested in anything serious or having an actual relationship with you.  I would consider this......."stalkerish and tacky"........I am using your words.  

Then.....you are saying it's being "weird and tacky" about pursuing this other man you saw 6 months ago.  He hasn't given you any indication that he isn't interested, however, you won't pursue him.  This isn't "stalkerish and tacky" at all.  This is called "taking a chance."

I think you should figure yourself out first before thinking about pursuing anyone.  You are having problems appropriately assessing these situations and appropriately responding.  

[love138]

I know...its very awkward at this point b/c i was seriously considering calling around that time  but i felt it was tacky. He wouldnt remember unless he has good memory. Im just disappointed i never said anything to him and when someone told me they recently saw him around i felt like it was a sign or something...lol

[TTinKKerBBell]

I don't think it's "weird" but I do think enough time has passed that it might be a little awkward at this stage.  What if He hardly remembers You by now? and You had to remind Him what, when and where?  I kinda, sorta agree with You that it would be a bit tacky now - You said it was "months ago".

Don't be afraid to show an attraction if such an opportunity arises in the future.  That's what flirting is for; to let each other know when there is an attraction.

[love138]

No one think that it's weird to do?