Aa
tacky..sort of
I actually never did this but, i was thinking about it months ago..anyways there was this nice guy who fixed something in a relatives house.. anyway i was instantly attracted to him when i first saw him and wanted to say something to him but i felt insecure about it and didnt really say anything..fast forward i was thinking about calling his business card to try and ask him a question about something business related hoping it'll lead to something else but never did b/c i felt it would be sort of stalkerish and tacky..which it is. would it have been tacky? lol Thinking about it now I sort of regret not saying anything to him b/c he seemed like a decent guy with a good head on his shoulders. I believe he works in the area where this relative lives but theres a small to none chance that i would actually run into him again
Amen Annie! :0)
"If I were young and single and I really felt a spark, I probably would find a way to at least explore it further." Dang straight, nursegirl. Life is too short to be so tied up by fear of some imaginary consequence (what is he going to do, post it on the front page of the paper?). If I was single and liked someone, I'd act on it in a heartbeat.
Well, you never know unless you try! How do you know he doesn't remember you? Sounds like there was some chemistry between the two of you, so he may have been in the same boat, interested, but shy about pursuing you (especially if he met you in a work environment).
I honestly don't think an innocent contact is at all stalkerish or unprofessional at all. I think the fear of rejection and embarrassment is holding you back more than anything (and I get that). Does he have an e-mail address on the card? If so, that would be a perfect way to reach out without too much pressure. You could send him something like this...
Dear "adorable guy's name",
I hope you don't mind me contacting you out of the blue. My name is X and we met briefly at my "relative's name"'s house. I would love to maybe get together for coffee or drinks sometime to get to know you better. If you're in a relationship, I apologize, I just figured I would try to contact you to see what you think! Looking forward to hearing from you, and I hope you aren't offended by my being forward.
Signed,
You
You get the idea. I think you should take a chance! You just NEVER know. How cool would it be if he reciprocated your sentiment? Yay! :0) I'm a hopeless romantic, so I'm all for it!
The only other way you could maybe pull off an initial contact that wouldn't be so forward is if you found out where he hangs out and try to "bump into him" (which it sounds like you've already explored that a bit and can't come up with a place you'd be able to see him).
You COULD also go with the other plan, which was to call him about something work related. What does he do? Maybe there is a small job you could have him do? Or at least look at? That really may work, it would enable you to garner some more info, test the waters, and go from there. And just think of the cute story you'll have for your grandchildren some day! (lol...just teasing)
Give it some thought! If I were young and single and I really felt a spark, I probably would find a way to at least explore it further. Good luck sweetie!
I honestly don't think an innocent contact is at all stalkerish or unprofessional at all. I think the fear of rejection and embarrassment is holding you back more than anything (and I get that). Does he have an e-mail address on the card? If so, that would be a perfect way to reach out without too much pressure. You could send him something like this...
Dear "adorable guy's name",
I hope you don't mind me contacting you out of the blue. My name is X and we met briefly at my "relative's name"'s house. I would love to maybe get together for coffee or drinks sometime to get to know you better. If you're in a relationship, I apologize, I just figured I would try to contact you to see what you think! Looking forward to hearing from you, and I hope you aren't offended by my being forward.
Signed,
You
You get the idea. I think you should take a chance! You just NEVER know. How cool would it be if he reciprocated your sentiment? Yay! :0) I'm a hopeless romantic, so I'm all for it!
The only other way you could maybe pull off an initial contact that wouldn't be so forward is if you found out where he hangs out and try to "bump into him" (which it sounds like you've already explored that a bit and can't come up with a place you'd be able to see him).
You COULD also go with the other plan, which was to call him about something work related. What does he do? Maybe there is a small job you could have him do? Or at least look at? That really may work, it would enable you to garner some more info, test the waters, and go from there. And just think of the cute story you'll have for your grandchildren some day! (lol...just teasing)
Give it some thought! If I were young and single and I really felt a spark, I probably would find a way to at least explore it further. Good luck sweetie!
It's not hard it just seems unprofessional and stalkerish
1. He doesn't know me and doesn't remember me... This was like 6 months ago.. But I stated someone saw him recently as last month and that's what made me think of it
2. It's his business card... I'm assuming not a personal number... If it is then it will still seem odd if I called it.. All and all I don't want to bother him while he's working with this foolishness lol
3. He could be involved. At first I thought he was married but I'm pretty positive he wasn't but he could have a girlfriend or whatever
If I ever do seem him I would definitely say something to him but I don't see him so pretty much I should just forget it
1. He doesn't know me and doesn't remember me... This was like 6 months ago.. But I stated someone saw him recently as last month and that's what made me think of it
2. It's his business card... I'm assuming not a personal number... If it is then it will still seem odd if I called it.. All and all I don't want to bother him while he's working with this foolishness lol
3. He could be involved. At first I thought he was married but I'm pretty positive he wasn't but he could have a girlfriend or whatever
If I ever do seem him I would definitely say something to him but I don't see him so pretty much I should just forget it
You know, when I was a cute teenage girl with not that many interesting dates I would get so darn mad at the cute boys who said almost exactly what you are saying here to their buddies and never asked me out. I would have liked it! What is so hard about calling him and asking if he'd like to have a cup of coffee?
I don't use FB and I tried to look him up and found pretty much nothing. He's a good looking guy so I wouldn't be surprised if he were involved. Someone I know actually saw him driving so I guess he's around but I don't see him at all.., very slim chance I'll see him. I was actually thinking about calling months ago just for the hell of it but it seems odd and desperate so I never did. I wish I would of approached him ibut I was insecure/ shy. Even a relative said that I should of said something to him
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