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Hand job std risk
Hellos,
Tonight I went to a strip club and had a lap dance. In the dance the dancer took out my penis and gave me a hand job, I didn't finish. She kept her bottoms on and no saliva was involved. Any std risk?
Tonight I went to a strip club and had a lap dance. In the dance the dancer took out my penis and gave me a hand job, I didn't finish. She kept her bottoms on and no saliva was involved. Any std risk?
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There is absolutely no risk here. Hand jobs do not transmit STDs.
STDs are transmitted by oral, vaginal or anal sex, or if your unclothed genitals rub up against someone else's unclothed genitals.
STDs are transmitted by oral, vaginal or anal sex, or if your unclothed genitals rub up against someone else's unclothed genitals.
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Ok, I logically knew HIV, gonorrhea etc were no risk but was concerned about herpes and some sites make it sound like any skin contact can transmit genital herpes. Logically this seemed a stretch. As no genital to genital contact she realistically would need to have a open site on her hand, she didn't to my recollection and we sat at the bar in good light so I think I would have noticed, also I gather they hurt so she would not likely be comfortable if she had this going on. Sorry my OCD is in full time right now competing with logic.
I really hate the messaging around "skin to skin" contact.
What it means is "unclothed, genital to genital skin to skin contact". It means your naked genitals would have to rub against someone else's naked genitals in order to get herpes, syphilis, or HPV - those are the "skin to skin" transmitted STIs.
Yes, there is something called herpetic whitlow, which is herpes on the finger, but it's very painful, and very obvious, and she wouldn't be giving you a handjob with it. It's also not at all common.
What it means is "unclothed, genital to genital skin to skin contact". It means your naked genitals would have to rub against someone else's naked genitals in order to get herpes, syphilis, or HPV - those are the "skin to skin" transmitted STIs.
Yes, there is something called herpetic whitlow, which is herpes on the finger, but it's very painful, and very obvious, and she wouldn't be giving you a handjob with it. It's also not at all common.
Thank you very much for the response and all you do to help us worriers.
You're welcome. :)
Hello, sorry to post a follow up but my scrotom has been tingling and I haven't felt quite right, of course I am also anxious to the max. In this situation she kept her bottoms on but it was a lap dance so I am jumping to the "if her panty clad bottom came in contact with my penis do I have herpes" fear. I think based on you description not as it was not skin to skin but I am trying to gage the window I would need to be vigilant. I am married and usually have unprotected sex with my wife. I will likely have a uncomfortable talk with her as it is better to do that early than avoid it and want to have the facts. I hate myself for ever going there and feel like once I agreed to the dance the dancer played me like a strata various.
There is no risk here. You can do all the "what if" scenarios in your head, but there is no risk.
Herpes - and all the other STIs - don't go through clothing. If she had her bottoms on, you are fine.
Your scrotum tingling is likely anxiety and a hyper-awareness of the area. No STI causes scrotum tingling.
Guilt doesn't equal risk.
Herpes - and all the other STIs - don't go through clothing. If she had her bottoms on, you are fine.
Your scrotum tingling is likely anxiety and a hyper-awareness of the area. No STI causes scrotum tingling.
Guilt doesn't equal risk.
Thank you, as there is someone else involved, my wife, I am seeing incubation of 2 to 12 days. Just to be safe what is the norm? I was going to avoid any activity with her in that window plus probably a little Kentucky windage. Of course after I explain why I have been so distant that may not be a problem.
YOU HAD NO RISK.
There is no incubation period when you had no risk.
Are you trying to blow up your marriage for no reason here? I am not a marriage counselor, or any kind of counselor, but what you are likely trying to do here is unburden your guilt by telling your wife everything, and in turn, you will crush her. You will feel so much better, and she will feel terrible.
Instead, why don't you make an appt with a counselor and work through your guilt and catastrophic thinking?
We see this here all the time. Take this guilt, learn from it, and just don't do it again. Don't blow up your marriage if it's a good one.
There is no incubation period when you had no risk.
Are you trying to blow up your marriage for no reason here? I am not a marriage counselor, or any kind of counselor, but what you are likely trying to do here is unburden your guilt by telling your wife everything, and in turn, you will crush her. You will feel so much better, and she will feel terrible.
Instead, why don't you make an appt with a counselor and work through your guilt and catastrophic thinking?
We see this here all the time. Take this guilt, learn from it, and just don't do it again. Don't blow up your marriage if it's a good one.
It is 25 years I just don't want to hurt her. You are right tell her and I will. Keep it to myself and the worst happens I will too. I did something dub like this 14 years and and said to myself I would never again and here we are. No risk is no risk I have her thinking I don't feel great and will probably keep to that until Monday or so as 4 days sounds typical then move on.
Wow - 25 years. Don't blow this up over something that is no risk. Figure out how to not do it again, but don't blow it all up, especially during the holidays.
Wishing you the best.
Wishing you the best.
Yeah my propensity to be a dumb ass is impeccable. Then a dumb hypochondriac to boot as I am sure you can see from my post history. Gonna do as I said as a just in case and move on, praying nothing happens later. I hate how weak I can be and don't want her to suffer for my failing. Thank you again for all you do.
Therapy is a beautiful thing, Mental health is as important as physical health. You deserve to find peace and good coping skills. Make that your gift to yourself or a new year's resolution or whatever.
Thank you
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
