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Am i at risk
Hello,
Last week i had been to a strip bar. I wasn't interested but my friends forced me and we went. I'll precisely mention the details in sequence that happened there :
1) A stripper came to me, talked to me and agreed to give me lap dance. Its was for two songs close to be 8-10 mins. I was fully clothed. she was in her bra and panties. she kept her breasts on my face and occasionally her hair was touching my face. i did touch her body. she was very clean looking. No marks on her body. After the dance i came back to get a coke drink.
2) Another customer came and the stripper took him to the private room. They were there for 10 mins or so. i meantime went to the restroom washed my hands and came back.
3) The strpper again came to me and persuaded me to the private room. I clearily mentioned that i dont want to have sex of any kind (oral/anal/vaginal). she also mentioned that for any kind of sex(oral/anal/vaginal) she will use a condom.
4) She took me and gave me lapdances first for three songs.i agreed only for hand job and we went into the private room . She became nude. I touched her nipples. They became hard and then for a very very small time touched her genitals with my two fingers (on the surface never went down and inserted into her vagina). She then asked to me to remove my pants and when i removed she came to touch my penis. she did touch for brief brief time (not even 5-10 seconds). I clearily told her that i'll do my hand job myself. She sat on the chair and teased me by fingering herself while i masturbated on the floor. I quickly did my hand job and we properly dressed came out and washed hands with hand soap given by the stripper. This is wat exactly happened. Just one thing i'm not able to recollect is by any chance did she touch her genitals before touching my penis very briefly.
In this whole incident did i risk myself for anything STDS/HIV. I had arguments with my friends and they told me not to worry . I got so anxious that after leaving the club i went home and from there went to hospital (ER) and did narrate the same to the doctor. The doctor said that there is nothing to worry and said that only exchange of bodily fluids can put anyone in risk. After five days of this incident i went to the strip club and spoke to the same stripper. enquired if she was always doing safe sex, did she have any std's. She sweared that she was healthy, did her last checkup two months back. Out of anxiety i also checked her hands (palms) and they were clean with no cuts/sores. I'm still having the fear and guilt in my mind and i'm not able to discuss with my wife / primary care physician.
1) Did i put myself in any risk for any std/hiv. Do i need to test
2) Can genital to hand (stripper touching my genitals) or hand to genital to hand ( me touching stripper genitals and using the same hand on my genitals) with the genital fluids cause any risk.
Please answer as i when my wife is back, i want to plan for second kid. Can i have regular sex with my wife.
Last week i had been to a strip bar. I wasn't interested but my friends forced me and we went. I'll precisely mention the details in sequence that happened there :
1) A stripper came to me, talked to me and agreed to give me lap dance. Its was for two songs close to be 8-10 mins. I was fully clothed. she was in her bra and panties. she kept her breasts on my face and occasionally her hair was touching my face. i did touch her body. she was very clean looking. No marks on her body. After the dance i came back to get a coke drink.
2) Another customer came and the stripper took him to the private room. They were there for 10 mins or so. i meantime went to the restroom washed my hands and came back.
3) The strpper again came to me and persuaded me to the private room. I clearily mentioned that i dont want to have sex of any kind (oral/anal/vaginal). she also mentioned that for any kind of sex(oral/anal/vaginal) she will use a condom.
4) She took me and gave me lapdances first for three songs.i agreed only for hand job and we went into the private room . She became nude. I touched her nipples. They became hard and then for a very very small time touched her genitals with my two fingers (on the surface never went down and inserted into her vagina). She then asked to me to remove my pants and when i removed she came to touch my penis. she did touch for brief brief time (not even 5-10 seconds). I clearily told her that i'll do my hand job myself. She sat on the chair and teased me by fingering herself while i masturbated on the floor. I quickly did my hand job and we properly dressed came out and washed hands with hand soap given by the stripper. This is wat exactly happened. Just one thing i'm not able to recollect is by any chance did she touch her genitals before touching my penis very briefly.
In this whole incident did i risk myself for anything STDS/HIV. I had arguments with my friends and they told me not to worry . I got so anxious that after leaving the club i went home and from there went to hospital (ER) and did narrate the same to the doctor. The doctor said that there is nothing to worry and said that only exchange of bodily fluids can put anyone in risk. After five days of this incident i went to the strip club and spoke to the same stripper. enquired if she was always doing safe sex, did she have any std's. She sweared that she was healthy, did her last checkup two months back. Out of anxiety i also checked her hands (palms) and they were clean with no cuts/sores. I'm still having the fear and guilt in my mind and i'm not able to discuss with my wife / primary care physician.
1) Did i put myself in any risk for any std/hiv. Do i need to test
2) Can genital to hand (stripper touching my genitals) or hand to genital to hand ( me touching stripper genitals and using the same hand on my genitals) with the genital fluids cause any risk.
Please answer as i when my wife is back, i want to plan for second kid. Can i have regular sex with my wife.
COMMUNITY LEADER
No risk as the doctors said. Maybe have some tests to relieve your anxiety.
Hi All,
First of all sorry to start this thread again. I posted the same question in STD Expert Forums and Doctor Hook clearily said that my situation had no risk. But my fear/anxiety prompted to me ask a question again to Dr Hunter regarding Herpes. Wanted to know if herpes can be spread by hand to genital contact. I was warned by Medhelp for excessive posting and they suggested me to look into HIV Anxiety Forums. I forced myself to ask the question again not to dispute/challenge the expert's responses but last few days i have been having this feeling of itching in the groin area. Last one week i have been religiously watching my genitals/groin and back of thighs and anus to see if there are any blisters/sores. Till yesterday i didnot see anything and yesterday evening i got a cracked skin at the groin (between inner left thigh and scrotum). Nothing is red around that area, no blisters. but the skin looks opened and is red. it feels as if you took a shaving blade and got a cut there. My Anxieties and fears started growing again. I again checked the internet. People talked about this condition caused by Jock itch/ sweat rash/fungal infection. But my mind makes me to associate this to Herpes. Can you please let me know if this is could be a normal fungal infection .am i unneccessrily worrying. Does my situation have anything to do with the first Herpes outbreak. I'm scared because i'm currently alone. My wife is on vacation and i dont want to reveal the whole incident as it could cause irrepairable damage to our relationship. I'm hesitating to talk to my GP doctor as well. Please clarify my points
First of all sorry to start this thread again. I posted the same question in STD Expert Forums and Doctor Hook clearily said that my situation had no risk. But my fear/anxiety prompted to me ask a question again to Dr Hunter regarding Herpes. Wanted to know if herpes can be spread by hand to genital contact. I was warned by Medhelp for excessive posting and they suggested me to look into HIV Anxiety Forums. I forced myself to ask the question again not to dispute/challenge the expert's responses but last few days i have been having this feeling of itching in the groin area. Last one week i have been religiously watching my genitals/groin and back of thighs and anus to see if there are any blisters/sores. Till yesterday i didnot see anything and yesterday evening i got a cracked skin at the groin (between inner left thigh and scrotum). Nothing is red around that area, no blisters. but the skin looks opened and is red. it feels as if you took a shaving blade and got a cut there. My Anxieties and fears started growing again. I again checked the internet. People talked about this condition caused by Jock itch/ sweat rash/fungal infection. But my mind makes me to associate this to Herpes. Can you please let me know if this is could be a normal fungal infection .am i unneccessrily worrying. Does my situation have anything to do with the first Herpes outbreak. I'm scared because i'm currently alone. My wife is on vacation and i dont want to reveal the whole incident as it could cause irrepairable damage to our relationship. I'm hesitating to talk to my GP doctor as well. Please clarify my points
COMMUNITY LEADER
Hi and welcome. You were NOT at risk for contracting any std,s as the doctor confirmed.
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
