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Scared-Need advice/help with Oral scare
Okay. I am a 17 year old male. I have a girlfriend I have been dating for a few months now and we ended up having a teenager moment and did some things without thinking. We are both virgins. She has had 2 past boyfriends I know about both of them she did sexual foreplay with, the first she let finger her the second she let finger and gave oral too but says he never ejaculated the times they did it. I have had 3 previous girlfriend. The first we just messed around and she gave me oral once, the second I had sexual contact with. After the second girl I got a scare because I later found out she has slept with many many guys so I told my father that I wanted to get blood work done (I told him we hadn't done anything it was just a peace of mind thing, my father didn't believe me but I never had actual sex with the girl) then the last girl was a complete virgin had never done anything before (that she admitted to but I trust her) and I only fingered her.
Now after the background on to my problem. My current girlfriend and I where hanging out and having one of those moments which led to her giving me oral sex. I ejaculated in her mouth. Now I am seriously scared. After the scare with the second girl (I got tested about 4-6 weeks afterwards so I'm not really nervous about not finding it before) I am kinda nervous now. I know some will say this makes me not ready for sexual activity but normally I am fine I am just having a bit of anxiety due to it happening kinda fast and I wasn't ready. So based off of what I have given (sorry if it is a lot of information to take it I just want to have all the facts out there before hand) what are the odds of me having any sort of STD and should I get tested? No matter what I am now for sure knowing that I will always use a condom. I haven't bought them myself and I am still a virgin in the literal sense of actually having sex and I am waiting for the right time and will use pertection. Now what do you guys/girls believe is my risk here and should I really be concerned?
Now after the background on to my problem. My current girlfriend and I where hanging out and having one of those moments which led to her giving me oral sex. I ejaculated in her mouth. Now I am seriously scared. After the scare with the second girl (I got tested about 4-6 weeks afterwards so I'm not really nervous about not finding it before) I am kinda nervous now. I know some will say this makes me not ready for sexual activity but normally I am fine I am just having a bit of anxiety due to it happening kinda fast and I wasn't ready. So based off of what I have given (sorry if it is a lot of information to take it I just want to have all the facts out there before hand) what are the odds of me having any sort of STD and should I get tested? No matter what I am now for sure knowing that I will always use a condom. I haven't bought them myself and I am still a virgin in the literal sense of actually having sex and I am waiting for the right time and will use pertection. Now what do you guys/girls believe is my risk here and should I really be concerned?
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I agree with grace; the odds of you having any sort of STD are zero, and you don't need to be tested.
Just always always use a condom --even for oral sex. ALWAYS. I don't care how hot and bothered you get.
Just always always use a condom --even for oral sex. ALWAYS. I don't care how hot and bothered you get.
I have another question though. Jessy ou say to always use a condom for oral sex. Well if I know there is no risk with this girl should I still do it? I know this maybe a dumb question but I am just wanting to know what you believe I should do. I know that some people have unprotected oral sex in steady relationships I'm just wondering if that is a point or if its just always better to stay safe. I don't have any condoms myself and I'm not sure how to exactly approach getting them. Are there any made just for oral sex? I'm not trying to get off subject I just want to know more.
odds are your partners are not getting tested for herpes to know their hsv1 oral status. Even if they are virgins when they meet you, they can still have hsv1 orally. At your age , 1 out of every 3 people you know has hsv1 orally. hsv1 can be transmitted to the genital area through oral sex even when an obvious cold sore isn't present. you also can contract ngu from oral sex - normal bacteria in the mouth isn't always so normal in the urogenital tract.
you can buy condoms in the store( or order them online - most come in boxes that don't advertise what they are and you can even order them on amazon! ). It's nothing to be embarrassed about!! Flavored condoms help a little for oral sex and if you buy them unlubricated, that is helpful too. They also make flavored lubes you can buy to help with the flavor of a condom too.
when you are performing oral on a partner, you can cut a condom open on one side and lay it over her genital area to perform oral on her.
protect yourself :)
you can buy condoms in the store( or order them online - most come in boxes that don't advertise what they are and you can even order them on amazon! ). It's nothing to be embarrassed about!! Flavored condoms help a little for oral sex and if you buy them unlubricated, that is helpful too. They also make flavored lubes you can buy to help with the flavor of a condom too.
when you are performing oral on a partner, you can cut a condom open on one side and lay it over her genital area to perform oral on her.
protect yourself :)
That's some good information right there. I wish I had read that when I was 17 years old.
Since you guys are being so nice about this and really helpful I just have a few more questions.
1. How would I know if I have HSV? What are some main symptoms? If my partner has never said she has had any symptoms of it ever wouldn't she know by now? And wouldn't I being it has been a few weeks?
2. Does anyone have suggestions for getting condoms for someone like me? I am kinda embarrassed by the process and can't order online. I live in a household where sex is something that when discussed is seen as something bad that you shouldn't do unless your married but to me I see love as something that can be done responsibly at a point when you are comfortable. Problem is I am not sure how to actually get up the nerve to go to a store and then how to go about hiding them. Any suggestions? I live near a CVS which I could walk to. How much would these cost?
Thanks again everyone. I haven't ever met people who can talk about sex and care about other people. I am still nervous now about this no found STD risk but I just want to protect me for my future and for her future.
1. How would I know if I have HSV? What are some main symptoms? If my partner has never said she has had any symptoms of it ever wouldn't she know by now? And wouldn't I being it has been a few weeks?
2. Does anyone have suggestions for getting condoms for someone like me? I am kinda embarrassed by the process and can't order online. I live in a household where sex is something that when discussed is seen as something bad that you shouldn't do unless your married but to me I see love as something that can be done responsibly at a point when you are comfortable. Problem is I am not sure how to actually get up the nerve to go to a store and then how to go about hiding them. Any suggestions? I live near a CVS which I could walk to. How much would these cost?
Thanks again everyone. I haven't ever met people who can talk about sex and care about other people. I am still nervous now about this no found STD risk but I just want to protect me for my future and for her future.
www.iwannaknow.org has terrific information about sex and std's and it's all aimed at teenagers :) I recommend reading it when you have the time!
you buy condoms like the rest of us did when we were younger - you buy a pack of gum, a chap stick, 3 candy bars, a soda and oh yeah, a box of trojans....he he he
grace
you buy condoms like the rest of us did when we were younger - you buy a pack of gum, a chap stick, 3 candy bars, a soda and oh yeah, a box of trojans....he he he
grace
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
your gf isn't likely to have any std's to worry about.
you also aren't likely to have any std's.
you have nothing to worry about. even if you did have a std, the risk of your gf contracting it from oral sex are incredibly low.
grace