Hello Everyone. first time poster in need of some honest and serious advice or solutions. any sincere help be it personal, medical or suggestive would be greatly appreciated, Thank you so much beforehand.
Heres a little about me. I'm a 23 years old male, 6'1", 200 pounds and very health and fit for my age and size. I'm also a bit larger then average coming in at 8.5 inches last I checked. I run occasionally but don't workout or play any sports, but I do swim and do water activities a good bit.
Now here's the problem.: Whenever I have sex with my Girlfriend, I last FOREVER and just CAN NOT orgasm! the feeling is spectacular, she is tight and wet, beautifully stunning and jaw dropping, the positions and movements are mind boggling, and the heat and sensuality and intimacy is anything I've ever seen. I just can't get to orgasm through sex alone. I love her and everything she does, and I too try the best in my abilities but I just can't reach that point where I am going to *** during sex. i can only reach orgasm if mine or her hand is used!
what really gets to me is the fact that I can through masturbation easily, but not through oral and vaginal sex. My girlfriend personally doesn't mind this and loves it because she gets to *** and usually gets off 2, 3, even 4 times before I just call it quits and finish myself off, sort of speak. This is really frustrating to me at times, i don't want to be a 1 minute man cumming too early, but i don't want to go forever either as it is very stressful and not fun at all. "Quickies" don't exist between us because of this problem, and I find myself getting tired and exhausted rather then what I should be which is happy, euphoric and satisfied.
I never did like porn, and when I do masturbate i go off of memories of my girlfriend, and at most some pictures of her and us. I love her and the connection we have. use of hands is about the only thing that i can get off to, and i have resorted to teaching her how to use her hands to please me.
I've tried sex with every type of condom imaginable, every lube variation out there, and without a condom too (we are both clean, love each other and want a child so its ok, don't worry!). I hate to work off of stereotypes, but i feel like the tables are turned here because usually the opposite is true (women takes longer or can't and the man can very easily). I've brought it up with her and she has been really helpful in trying to help me work this out. we talk about everything and have a very open communication relationship. the moment i had these worries i brought it up with her and we talked about it and she was very accepting and caring about the whole situation making me feel better about it.
I don't know if it is something psychologically wrong, or physically or whatever else that it could be. I'm always relaxed and comfortable during sex and love the sensations and feelings so I don't think its physical. My mind is at rest, I'm in the zone and love the pleasure and doing the pleasuring sex also and i don't believe its psychological.