Good evening, all. I could really use some help from any women (or men who've also experienced this with their partner) in finding some sort of solution to what my girlfriend and I have been going through.
She and I have been together for nearly a year, and for the last nine months there have been many occasions in which her labia (and at times her introitus) becomes excruciating and painfully inflamed and even somewhat rigid to the touch during intercourse.
At first, thinking it a problem with being too vigorous, we tried more gentle approaches to things, followed by less friction generating positions, and different lubricants, from water- and silicon-based to coconut oil. Unfortunately, sometimes it happened while other times it didn't, regardless of repeating what worked well on other occasions.
STDs have been ruled out, as have yeast infections through multiple visits to her gyno, precautionary treatments, and the introduction of probiotics. Still, the problem persists, though, again, not always. I love foreplay, so that's a non-issue, and she's always very "aquatically excited" to see me.
We're both at a loss, and I completely love this woman and absolutely hate the idea of causing her such pain and discomfort given how much we love having sex and how often we try to. Understandably, however, frequency has lessened, but after spending a couple of weeks without sex and having it happen all over when we tried again, well, it's very upsetting and frustrating for both of us.
All that said: any ideas, thoughts, suggestions? Anything that worked for you if you've ever dealt with this problem or something similar?
Thanks, all. Any help is appreciated!