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Why can't I get wet around my boyfriend?
I'm 17 years of age and I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. We have both discussed having sex and I feel ready for it and I'm not really stressed about it cause I trust my boyfriend and feel very close to him. But for some reason when we video call and we both masturbate I can't seem to get wet even though I get really turned on, In fact I dry up and it hurts a little. I'm taking contraceptive pills so I don't know if that makes a difference but I've been able to get really wet and orgasm when I don't masturbate in front of him. I know he understands that I can't get wet and he's very patient but I just want to be able to do it with him. Does anyone know why I'm having trouble?
Hi,
Well, contraceptives can really put a damper on natural vaginal lubrication; they're a known culprit when it comes to vaginal dryness. You might also be experiencing dryness because either you're not fully aroused or sexually engaged enough during your video call sessions w/ your bf. Masturbating and sexual intercourse are obviously two very different sexual activities; anytime you're involved in a sexual relationship w/ a partner, your relationship will become more complex because of the emotions involved. Being anxious, nervous, or feeling like you're out of your comfort zone, and possibly worrying about how you appear ('performance anxiety') during any sexual activity can also cause dryness...For future reference be safe, research water based lubricants, and use protection during any sexual intercourse. Good Luck
Well, contraceptives can really put a damper on natural vaginal lubrication; they're a known culprit when it comes to vaginal dryness. You might also be experiencing dryness because either you're not fully aroused or sexually engaged enough during your video call sessions w/ your bf. Masturbating and sexual intercourse are obviously two very different sexual activities; anytime you're involved in a sexual relationship w/ a partner, your relationship will become more complex because of the emotions involved. Being anxious, nervous, or feeling like you're out of your comfort zone, and possibly worrying about how you appear ('performance anxiety') during any sexual activity can also cause dryness...For future reference be safe, research water based lubricants, and use protection during any sexual intercourse. Good Luck
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Hmm I'm still not sure how the contraceptives could cause me to be dry only in front of my boyfriend. And I feel pretty comfortable with him and we discuss any concerns we have, we have a very honest relationship. I feel ready to do those kind of things with him and I'm comfortable with my body around him. And I do get turned on by him, and we've been doing Skype calls for at least 2 years and it's been the same problem.
Hi again,
There's an excellent article that I think could help give you a thorough explanation on vaginal dryness. It also covers some information on side effects from hormonal bc., and how emotions can affect arousal, along with vaginal dryness. You can go to the Scarleteen site, then search article "can birth control cause dryness". It will give you a more in-depth view on what we discussed earlier. Scarleteen gives great advice for teens and young people; it also offers message boards... Take Care :)
There's an excellent article that I think could help give you a thorough explanation on vaginal dryness. It also covers some information on side effects from hormonal bc., and how emotions can affect arousal, along with vaginal dryness. You can go to the Scarleteen site, then search article "can birth control cause dryness". It will give you a more in-depth view on what we discussed earlier. Scarleteen gives great advice for teens and young people; it also offers message boards... Take Care :)
Wow thank you.
Everyone's body is different. Getting wet or not can be mind thing whereby you're uncomfortable etc. It can also be a factor of how the body is and lastly the birth controls can contribute to it as it alters the hormones. The best person to advice you is a doctor or a sex therapist.
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I spoke to the doctor but she said that unfortunately all contraceptives can make you dry, only libido (sex drive) is different in contraceptives
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