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I need you to respond to my question. Its important Thanks ;]
Hi everyone!
Im going to embarrass my self a little bit and write it quickly, you may laught damn hard...but's truely ok ;]
I was not masturbating since 2 years, because i saw this human action "and i still do" as a weak sort of reaction from a person, thats not having a real interactive relation with another woman (unless in a sexual way, for a single time)...but then (now) when i felt that it is important to control a normal sexual activity, i mean when i get "exited" after those years of lets say "
abstinence of masturabation" or not "wanknig", I stop to have normal erection's as in the past!!!... (im now 21) and im not sufering from ED... but that make me feel so strange --Literally "to get exited watching girls that atract me but without having typical erections as in the past when i masturbated xP "---. So i decided to masturbate with a reason, with a cause, or something that makes sense. So I actually thinked that its better for me to be prepared for the future "unexpected" situations with a woman, for the reason "to control the moment of sexual activity". Basically to check if i have a normal erection... so i masturbated with this reason.
Then I decided that, instead of having this "image of my self" (because... i honestly see masturbation as a escape of "everybody's" weakness (that I personally dont want to be used to do).
So I decided to use some reinforcement pill's like viagra or something of this kind, before having sex... to reach a typical erection control, that anotherwise i may be reaching or lets say "pioneering" by masturating activities..so my situation make me wonder if i have to quit masturabation and go the drug way???
Then i get devastated! because the last time i masturbated (and im usually extremely higiene...it means that after masturbation i never left any drop of sperm anywhere on the floor xd... but this last time i actidentally eyaculated into my dog...(((no no no im just kiding to wake you up people))) xD....but seriously the problem was:
That iam TRULY DEVASTATED as psychologically it can turn to be, because some drops of my last eyaculation went to a corner of my music magazine collection!!! Some people may say that this is stupidly fun and "insignificant"... but thats a thing that i just cannot fix from my mind, so im truly devastated ;./ because this music magazines represent my honor as well as my life so to speek.. and im really shocked "emotionally and mentally" because and besides that... my hole reasons including the concept of masturbation or wanking are now so far and in the wrong way ;(
Im going to resume my message into 3 questions so iam asking you to respond any way you can even with offensive words but please respond sincerly because this will give me psychological peace.
Im also sending this message to anyone, because im not wishing to hear some silly responses... and please do not compare my situation with another people lifes "that may prezent truely sexual problems and may not actually care about this things that i regreat" ---I REPEAT--- that this means a lot to me...(and im expecting professional answers... but all are welcome to respond).
This are my questions:
1.- How this just happened!?, that after 2 years in this totall abstinens "of no wanking" ; I was geting sexually excited without having normal erections? (also this lapse of time, make me much vulnerable to girls that i like to see)
2.- As i write before, im thinking to use some sort of excitement pills like viagra for exapmle, before having sex... but i actually dont know if this is the real method that could fill my needs, because we are talking about vulnerability to women that i like when i see and at the same time, reaching typical erections that i will be only reaching by regular masturbation, wich also contradicts with im truly seeking, i mean to have typical erections for example in a situation when im going to have sex, without anz previous regular masturbation...
3.- Belive it or not my true concern are My MUSIC MAGAZINES... that look completely perfect, as if it anything had never happened, BUT SERIOUSLY i mean, the effects that this have on my "real life" is just tragic because this objects represent to me very much. I mean this disturbed the values that i have as a person ;/ and i guess thereare pleny of solutions, i could buy a new magazines and so on...but the money its also a concern, and yhea may not be notorius but...it resulted to be a wound to me or something.
Im not going to any therapy treatment, so please experts, people around write or even ask me everything here...having just say that i am not embarraced of meeting some therapist, but for me the writing would better.
Thanks all for your support.
Im going to embarrass my self a little bit and write it quickly, you may laught damn hard...but's truely ok ;]
I was not masturbating since 2 years, because i saw this human action "and i still do" as a weak sort of reaction from a person, thats not having a real interactive relation with another woman (unless in a sexual way, for a single time)...but then (now) when i felt that it is important to control a normal sexual activity, i mean when i get "exited" after those years of lets say "
abstinence of masturabation" or not "wanknig", I stop to have normal erection's as in the past!!!... (im now 21) and im not sufering from ED... but that make me feel so strange --Literally "to get exited watching girls that atract me but without having typical erections as in the past when i masturbated xP "---. So i decided to masturbate with a reason, with a cause, or something that makes sense. So I actually thinked that its better for me to be prepared for the future "unexpected" situations with a woman, for the reason "to control the moment of sexual activity". Basically to check if i have a normal erection... so i masturbated with this reason.
Then I decided that, instead of having this "image of my self" (because... i honestly see masturbation as a escape of "everybody's" weakness (that I personally dont want to be used to do).
So I decided to use some reinforcement pill's like viagra or something of this kind, before having sex... to reach a typical erection control, that anotherwise i may be reaching or lets say "pioneering" by masturating activities..so my situation make me wonder if i have to quit masturabation and go the drug way???
Then i get devastated! because the last time i masturbated (and im usually extremely higiene...it means that after masturbation i never left any drop of sperm anywhere on the floor xd... but this last time i actidentally eyaculated into my dog...(((no no no im just kiding to wake you up people))) xD....but seriously the problem was:
That iam TRULY DEVASTATED as psychologically it can turn to be, because some drops of my last eyaculation went to a corner of my music magazine collection!!! Some people may say that this is stupidly fun and "insignificant"... but thats a thing that i just cannot fix from my mind, so im truly devastated ;./ because this music magazines represent my honor as well as my life so to speek.. and im really shocked "emotionally and mentally" because and besides that... my hole reasons including the concept of masturbation or wanking are now so far and in the wrong way ;(
Im going to resume my message into 3 questions so iam asking you to respond any way you can even with offensive words but please respond sincerly because this will give me psychological peace.
Im also sending this message to anyone, because im not wishing to hear some silly responses... and please do not compare my situation with another people lifes "that may prezent truely sexual problems and may not actually care about this things that i regreat" ---I REPEAT--- that this means a lot to me...(and im expecting professional answers... but all are welcome to respond).
This are my questions:
1.- How this just happened!?, that after 2 years in this totall abstinens "of no wanking" ; I was geting sexually excited without having normal erections? (also this lapse of time, make me much vulnerable to girls that i like to see)
2.- As i write before, im thinking to use some sort of excitement pills like viagra for exapmle, before having sex... but i actually dont know if this is the real method that could fill my needs, because we are talking about vulnerability to women that i like when i see and at the same time, reaching typical erections that i will be only reaching by regular masturbation, wich also contradicts with im truly seeking, i mean to have typical erections for example in a situation when im going to have sex, without anz previous regular masturbation...
3.- Belive it or not my true concern are My MUSIC MAGAZINES... that look completely perfect, as if it anything had never happened, BUT SERIOUSLY i mean, the effects that this have on my "real life" is just tragic because this objects represent to me very much. I mean this disturbed the values that i have as a person ;/ and i guess thereare pleny of solutions, i could buy a new magazines and so on...but the money its also a concern, and yhea may not be notorius but...it resulted to be a wound to me or something.
Im not going to any therapy treatment, so please experts, people around write or even ask me everything here...having just say that i am not embarraced of meeting some therapist, but for me the writing would better.
Thanks all for your support.
Hi,
nice to hear from you again.
Thanks for giving me the "best answer" point:)
I truly have no wise advice for the problem described but I liked your post ...especially the part "you never know if you are going to eyaculate into a Jesus statue or into a autographed Eminem CD or something that has true value for you.. "... No doubt it may be very frustrating and stressful... Now imagine someone who has a valuable collection of not music magazines, statues or eminem CDs but someone who has a valuable collection of porn magazines and he accidentally ejaculates onto them, which is quite possible under certain unspecified circumstances, you know, then the problem may start to get even more dimensions:)
Have a nice day and I wish you good luck and no stressful accidents, if you know what I mean:)
nice to hear from you again.
Thanks for giving me the "best answer" point:)
I truly have no wise advice for the problem described but I liked your post ...especially the part "you never know if you are going to eyaculate into a Jesus statue or into a autographed Eminem CD or something that has true value for you.. "... No doubt it may be very frustrating and stressful... Now imagine someone who has a valuable collection of not music magazines, statues or eminem CDs but someone who has a valuable collection of porn magazines and he accidentally ejaculates onto them, which is quite possible under certain unspecified circumstances, you know, then the problem may start to get even more dimensions:)
Have a nice day and I wish you good luck and no stressful accidents, if you know what I mean:)
Hey man xD
I undesrtand every word of it, LMAO...hahaha
Well i actually agree with you, hmmm and i think all this proces of "knowing yourself" (your biological abilities and everything related to it) maybe in some cases (like in my case) more profound or as you say , but its nothing to do with intellectuality at all!!! haha. I just wanted to give some more reason to this freaking behavior, than just wanking for pleasure and then, after all that...act stupidly normal with people around you as if anithing had happened...That makes me feel desorientated :/
Well i see that after all this is a natural way of acting from a person, and i mean people may do this, when they feel the need. Wheter is for reproducing them selfs or for self satisfaction, or just for quiting it an go ahead with their lives...
-Well in conclusion, the only thing that really makes me feel like a retard, is that this will cost me money and time... because my magazines are the real deal, so i may buy them all once again. Anotherwise i will feel that i am fooling my self for the rest of my life, holding this significant peaces od paper that i respect.. containing some dry sperm for the next generations to come xD ...so thats just weird man
One last thing..and you are not gonig to belive this foks!?!?!...when i was masturbating the last time, a sec before a was freaking eyaculating seeing some hot chick teasing (since i like girls untouched, rather than prositutes xd)...anyway a misserable insect (fly) just ahead of my sight, so i was looking at this vid... and then (as if it from the act of some jackass God) the insect make my expensive headphones fall from into my semen ;.(...
That was the moment when i just loose my personality foks. I mean those headphones where little destroyed before, and i was planning to buy better ones anyway, but the fact that this masurbation thing has gone so far, it makes me feel like some abnormal guy...agrrrhh.so i will buy the headphones and thats a pain in the ***...i clean the headphones with boil wather lol
From now on i think this way:
-If someone haves a girl or wife, and is masturabting...he is doing it because he or they, want to have better sexual experiences as a couple, and so on. So thats perfectly normal/
-But if you dont have a girl, as in my case... and you go out to parties, and eventually like hot girls. So if you are looking to kiss some of them and finally or actidentally get envolved oin some type of sex with them...you better watch out your belongings when you get back home, because you never know if you are going to eyaculate into a Jesus statue or into a autographed Eminem CD or something that has true value for you..
-I will use Viagra or some pills that give you more power (if you know what i mean) in case of some kind of relation with a hot girl, but that would have to be a pre-determinated one. Because i dont want to consume that without some warning lol.
So foks want can you say to help my personality go up again, because i feel so PWEND!?!?!?
Cheers...
I undesrtand every word of it, LMAO...hahaha
Well i actually agree with you, hmmm and i think all this proces of "knowing yourself" (your biological abilities and everything related to it) maybe in some cases (like in my case) more profound or as you say , but its nothing to do with intellectuality at all!!! haha. I just wanted to give some more reason to this freaking behavior, than just wanking for pleasure and then, after all that...act stupidly normal with people around you as if anithing had happened...That makes me feel desorientated :/
Well i see that after all this is a natural way of acting from a person, and i mean people may do this, when they feel the need. Wheter is for reproducing them selfs or for self satisfaction, or just for quiting it an go ahead with their lives...
-Well in conclusion, the only thing that really makes me feel like a retard, is that this will cost me money and time... because my magazines are the real deal, so i may buy them all once again. Anotherwise i will feel that i am fooling my self for the rest of my life, holding this significant peaces od paper that i respect.. containing some dry sperm for the next generations to come xD ...so thats just weird man
One last thing..and you are not gonig to belive this foks!?!?!...when i was masturbating the last time, a sec before a was freaking eyaculating seeing some hot chick teasing (since i like girls untouched, rather than prositutes xd)...anyway a misserable insect (fly) just ahead of my sight, so i was looking at this vid... and then (as if it from the act of some jackass God) the insect make my expensive headphones fall from into my semen ;.(...
That was the moment when i just loose my personality foks. I mean those headphones where little destroyed before, and i was planning to buy better ones anyway, but the fact that this masurbation thing has gone so far, it makes me feel like some abnormal guy...agrrrhh.so i will buy the headphones and thats a pain in the ***...i clean the headphones with boil wather lol
From now on i think this way:
-If someone haves a girl or wife, and is masturabting...he is doing it because he or they, want to have better sexual experiences as a couple, and so on. So thats perfectly normal/
-But if you dont have a girl, as in my case... and you go out to parties, and eventually like hot girls. So if you are looking to kiss some of them and finally or actidentally get envolved oin some type of sex with them...you better watch out your belongings when you get back home, because you never know if you are going to eyaculate into a Jesus statue or into a autographed Eminem CD or something that has true value for you..
-I will use Viagra or some pills that give you more power (if you know what i mean) in case of some kind of relation with a hot girl, but that would have to be a pre-determinated one. Because i dont want to consume that without some warning lol.
So foks want can you say to help my personality go up again, because i feel so PWEND!?!?!?
Cheers...
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1.You have a problem when it comes to accepting masturbation as a natural behaviour of people (and some animals, too). These negative feelings about masturbation can contribute to your problems or confusion which you may sometimes experience.
2.If you lost your ability to have erections after a long period of abstinence or "starvation" - it is just a natural consequence of surpressing your sexuality. It seems to me that you cannot torture your penis with abstinence and then expect that it will cooperate with you when you want it to work properly - you acted against your penis for a long time, you sent it to prison (metaphorically) and now you expect that it will be at your service after such a long time of not being allowed to "live" its own natural way of life...
You know, similarly, if some girls torture themselves with diets, they can get mental anorexia and one day they might find out that their body stopped working in its original way, e.g. after some period of suffering, they will not feel any appetite for food. The same goes for sexual apetite - maybe in some cases, maybe yes, maybe no:)
3.Forget about Viagra if you do not feel psychologically comfortable with the sexual functions of your body and mind.
4.Music magazines - I seem not to be able to comment it... I really do not know how your semen could destroy your collection of magazines - I suppose that your semen is not toxic like acid and you certainly did not flood your magazines with several litres of it, so there should not be any real problem - unless you see the destruction in some kind of metaphorical way, then it would just reflect your negative associations related to sexuality, ejaculation, masturbation, some "moral antisexuality" or god knows what:)))
Please, do not take offence from my words, maybe I exaggerated a little bit and maybe I adopted not so serious approach and sometimes took it half-jokingly, but I would not like to hurt you in any way.
Good luck and have fun!