No sexual desire for spouse

[jenna82]

Hi- Im a 26 yr old women who has been with my husband for 4 years, I have NO desire for anything sexual with him EVER anymore ( been 2 years) .  Prior to this we were "insane" having sex 4 times a day everywhere and anywhere. Its so bad now, that I dont even want to kiss him, and when we do have sex I wont look at him or even care really:(  I still do find him very good looking, I just have no feelings of lust towards him. The bigger issue is that I DO feel lust for other men. Ofcourse I dont do anything, but in the back of my mind I know that we would have this passion filled sex if we ever did. I tried everything to make our sex life more "fun" but I never feel any emotion other then disguss when we are in the process. What is going on???

[SixStringer]

Since you do " . . . feel lust for other men . . . ", it seems that your sex drive is intact.  But the question is what went down between you and your husband within a short period of time of four years that would cause you to turn away from him and any love-making at all?  There is much more to this than sex, and one wonders what your husband is feeling.  But, as mentioned, professional marital counseling would be a must-do at this point.  

[heatherlynn22]

klaracd is right....you guys need some marital counseling.

[klaracd]

I wish I could help- but I dont believe opinions here would be anything to work on-  please please talk together and seek professional advice.