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Hi I am a young girl from Dubai I ahve a boyfriend that I love a lot and want to have sex with but I don't want him to penetrate me vagainally becuase I don't want to lose my verginity before marrage. I have seen some porn films with anal sex and the guys penis looks big and I am afraid its going to hurt me a lot is thier a way I can prepair my self for anal sex like sertian ways and lubrications that I should use before I insert anything inside my anus? Girls who had anal experience please help me with tips. Should I let him lick my anus before sex to lubricate ? One thing I know for sure is that I will not let him do it with out a condom :)
funny,I was just talking to a friend last night that also like riding a guy anally on top..it must be pleasurable or something.
My girlfriend likes to be on top of me for anal sex, it feels so awsome, she loves anal.
Know any gay male bottoms? I do. One that I know would really beg to differ with your last comment. They don't always (or often) do just fine.
But you're right--to each his own...if you have prolapsing, tearing, infection, and need to have your sphincter muscle surgically repaired, that's your business.
But you're right--to each his own...if you have prolapsing, tearing, infection, and need to have your sphincter muscle surgically repaired, that's your business.
I agree with you about the bashing on this thread...to each his own when it comes to anal sex.. People have been doing it for years,and they are still doing fine.
I stumbled across this forum today. this is the first post I have read. I must say that I am disgusted with all the negitive **** that everyone is throwing at nanigirl. she came here for informaiton about performing anal sex. not a morals lesson. for what ever reason and withing her cultural beliefs she has decided to pursue this as the only avenue available to her. on one hand I commend her for her willingness to please her partner but she should be aware of any medical risks she might be taking. if done with proper care I am not aware of any real medical risks providing it is not done in excess. I am not aware of any higher risk of STD's involved and she has already stated she is going to use a condome. I don't understand why so many poeple must turn this into a bashing session. if you don't have anything of value to contribute then shut the @#$% up!
hi i just wanna tell you that it is so bad for you to do it i think if you want to keep your verginity and feel the sex you have to make sex as touch not to let him put it inside i mean you will feel the sex and your partner too ..but anal sex will heart you a lot so dont do it at all if you want you can make sex from out side just touching i had done this with the girls who are vergin so good luck if you need any help send me but i want you not to do anal sex coz you are a human do you like to be treated like an animal.............my mail is ***@****
To: Sam and Fung
Whether religious or cultural or whatever, if vaginal sex is prohibited prior to marriage, I’m sure sodomy is prohibited as well (definitely in Islam and likely in most if not all Asian cultures as well as most other countries). I guess it's a good thing the anus doesn't have a hymen-like apparatus, too, or that would close that loophole.
I'm not trying to be judgmental or critical, just making an observation and I seriously am intrigued by the reasoning and the lack of adherence to religious or cultural beliefs while pretending to adhere to them. I supposed the persecution, mistreatment, or potential abuse by a husband who realizes you aren’t a virgin is a pretty big incentive, but how hypocritical when the same man who condemns you for not having your hymen intact may likely have had anal, oral, and even vaginal sex with other people.
Looking at it from a purely fascinated-by-the-things-people-do POV. Again...just and observation--not looking for an explanation or a defense of the practices or beliefs.
Whether religious or cultural or whatever, if vaginal sex is prohibited prior to marriage, I’m sure sodomy is prohibited as well (definitely in Islam and likely in most if not all Asian cultures as well as most other countries). I guess it's a good thing the anus doesn't have a hymen-like apparatus, too, or that would close that loophole.
I'm not trying to be judgmental or critical, just making an observation and I seriously am intrigued by the reasoning and the lack of adherence to religious or cultural beliefs while pretending to adhere to them. I supposed the persecution, mistreatment, or potential abuse by a husband who realizes you aren’t a virgin is a pretty big incentive, but how hypocritical when the same man who condemns you for not having your hymen intact may likely have had anal, oral, and even vaginal sex with other people.
Looking at it from a purely fascinated-by-the-things-people-do POV. Again...just and observation--not looking for an explanation or a defense of the practices or beliefs.
I just want to add a little. Most asian countries have the same basic culture about virginity. Girl has to be able to proof her virginity on the first night of marriage by shedding virgin blood . In some country, even husband has the right to return the wife to her family if there is no blood . This is not religion- it's culture. Most people still judged the girl's background by her virginity and it affected her future in relationship with others. .
Anal sex is a preference,but there isnt any scientific/medical evidence to say that STDs are easier with anal than with vaginal sex...please people keep it real! Some women and men alike enjoy anal sex,dont knock it until you try it!
Nanigirl is from Dubai. that means that when she is talking virginity that she is talking about maintaining the integrity of her hymen. In many cultures that is examined before marriage. In addition to which it is actually a rather beautiful thing that she is offering herself up in the way she is.
Things have to be taken in the context of the culture that the person is from. If she were wealthier perhaps she would even be trying to find surgeons in the UK who do reconstructive surgery on hymens. But for now she is taken the alternative that is allowed to her to maintain virginity under her culture and it would be small minded for us to impose the values of our culture on someone who does not share them. Her question was meant to allow her to make the venue available to her as pleasant as possible.
If your culture has something similar to WET or other thicker gel based lubes use those. Also a lube like "anal-eze" or something similar might help as well as an enema and condom. Otherwise good luck.
Things have to be taken in the context of the culture that the person is from. If she were wealthier perhaps she would even be trying to find surgeons in the UK who do reconstructive surgery on hymens. But for now she is taken the alternative that is allowed to her to maintain virginity under her culture and it would be small minded for us to impose the values of our culture on someone who does not share them. Her question was meant to allow her to make the venue available to her as pleasant as possible.
If your culture has something similar to WET or other thicker gel based lubes use those. Also a lube like "anal-eze" or something similar might help as well as an enema and condom. Otherwise good luck.
I would just say dont do anything that you are not 100% comfortable with...besides that I wish you all the best in your future...Good Luck!!!
I had to rush to my hospital, and I left my computer on.
I'm going to take it with me next time!
I'm going to take it with me next time!
Sorry...that wasn't me.
My little sister got a hold of my laptop and started posting random stuff.
Sorry!
My little sister got a hold of my laptop and started posting random stuff.
Sorry!
I can't speak for Paco, but I have no intentions of doing that--you may have meant to address someone else instead (?).
I'm not imposing my religion on anyone. Interesting that you should jump to that conclusion. I am actually not a relgioius person and this is one of the reasons. And the reason I have never engaged in anal sex has nothing at all to do with religion, morals, or cultural beliefs.
I just find it fascinating that people seriously think you can get off on a technicality or that there are loopholes with regard to religion, morals, and cultural expectations. It is what it is--and pretending it isn't or trying to make it seem like it's something it's not doesn't change anything. This mentality seriously intrigues me.
There's no reason anyone should be scared or intimidated...no need for you to be anyone's rescuer--no one is being mean in any way. Just expressing thoughts and stating opinions. I'm pretty sure that's permitted here.
I myself have tryed anal sex. it is not all it is cracked up to be, it ***** plus not wrth the risk of all the S.T.D'S you can and will recieve from doing so...Please do not do it. save you'r self if you want too, but do not be preasured to do something you are unsure of, Sex is vary nice but not if you do it for someone elts other then you'r self, at the age we live in today it is not bad to have sex at a good age i was 16 vary young i know but still noone looked down on me... do not have anal sex please! you are you'r own person but however keep your self safe you will get S.T.D'S from that ask you;r doctor
paco- There is no definitave way to tell if a man is a virgin or not. How fair is that? A man can sleep with anyone he wants, but if his woman has sex, he longer wants her. Are we living in the 19th century?
Agiesmom- I've already informed nanigirl about the risks of anal sex. Obviously you're Christian. Nanigirl is not.
I'm not trying to be mean, but don't impose your religion on people who really don't want to believe in it.
Everyone has their own beliefs! Don't scare or intimidate those people who's beliefs differ than yours!
Agiesmom- I've already informed nanigirl about the risks of anal sex. Obviously you're Christian. Nanigirl is not.
I'm not trying to be mean, but don't impose your religion on people who really don't want to believe in it.
Everyone has their own beliefs! Don't scare or intimidate those people who's beliefs differ than yours!
No experience at all with this so I can't give advice, but I'm actually glad Paco and Mr. Lucky commented because I was reading away and thinking, "You can't possibly believe you'll still be a virgin, can you?"
I find it rather fascinating when people lie and pretend that something is a certain way and believe that they are seriously still conforming to their religion or cultural beliefs. Sex aside, my cousin was living with her boyfriend for three years when they got married in the Catholic Church--I asked how the priest took the fact that they lived together and she said, "We didn't tell him! We lied and gave my mother's address for me!" Uh...ok...so your marriage in the Catholic Church is based on a lie? Interesting. And, likewise, if the original poster one day were to be honest and tell her husband that she had oral and anal sex, would he really be totally ok with it since her hymen is in tact?
I guess whatever works for you, but anal is something I view as being so far removed from the word virgin--I don't care if it's a different hole...especially when you want to include religion into the conversation.
It just all seems so hypocritical and strange to me. But again, whatever works for you.
p.s. Granted, I can't even imagine doing such a thing, but you really should do an internet search on the risks involved with anal sex. It's not something you should make a habit of for medical reasons--you can get prolapsing, tearing, infections, incontinence (no control over your bowels), etc. Do some research on the long-term effects of it before making a habit out of it.
I find it rather fascinating when people lie and pretend that something is a certain way and believe that they are seriously still conforming to their religion or cultural beliefs. Sex aside, my cousin was living with her boyfriend for three years when they got married in the Catholic Church--I asked how the priest took the fact that they lived together and she said, "We didn't tell him! We lied and gave my mother's address for me!" Uh...ok...so your marriage in the Catholic Church is based on a lie? Interesting. And, likewise, if the original poster one day were to be honest and tell her husband that she had oral and anal sex, would he really be totally ok with it since her hymen is in tact?
I guess whatever works for you, but anal is something I view as being so far removed from the word virgin--I don't care if it's a different hole...especially when you want to include religion into the conversation.
It just all seems so hypocritical and strange to me. But again, whatever works for you.
p.s. Granted, I can't even imagine doing such a thing, but you really should do an internet search on the risks involved with anal sex. It's not something you should make a habit of for medical reasons--you can get prolapsing, tearing, infections, incontinence (no control over your bowels), etc. Do some research on the long-term effects of it before making a habit out of it.
yes it think your right to say that about what your beliefs are to begin with, and i guess thats were it is up to us to do the research on such things, is are the christians, who should be basing their belief in the scriptures, right or are they other non-christian ones correct in their thinking, maybe by a scientific view.Though what you say about the hymen being broken is what many go by in proving whether she is a virgin or not, but then again you only need to prove that to yourself iguess, and if thats for a girl, then does that make it the only way a male can lose his virginty?
I guess in the end we need to find out for ourselves and not just take things for granted.
ciao all
I guess in the end we need to find out for ourselves and not just take things for granted.
ciao all
i wont say anything about wether you'll loose your virginity. thats religion not medicine. i will use vasiline or baby oil but plenty of it and tell him take it slow cause he can get hurt also. and if you dont prepare it will be uncomfortable. I doubt his size will do alot of bother to you. but lub up 1st and use alot too
I don't think she wants to be a virgin as it is obvious that she wants to have sex with the man she loves. I think it's more about needing to be a virgin, and not spoiling the obvious when she does get married and her husband has strong feelings about nanigirl being/not being a virgin. I think she doesn't want to ruin her chances, or interfere with the future in any way that is obvious and external. In our culture this is not so important but it's not like this everywhere in the world.
it's not mean it's how I feel. I want the best for her that she's makes a good choice and not be led on by the "if it feels good do it" types
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